183: A gay man’s journey through prostate cancer.

183: A gay man’s journey through prostate cancer.

Author: Sexologist Melissa Hadley Barrett November 13, 2024 Duration: 35:30
In this episode, Melissa welcomes Richard, a 71-year-old gay man, who shares his journey through prostate cancer diagnosis, treatment, and recovery, offering an honest look into the physical, emotional, and relational changes that come with it from the perspective of a gay man.    Key topics include:  Prostate Cancer Diagnosis and Treatment  Richard’s decision to opt for robotic prostate surgery over radiotherapy and the recovery process that followed.  Reflections on his initial fears, including concerns about anesthesia, biopsy discomfort, and his catheter experience during recovery.  Sexual Rehabilitation and Erectile Health  Richard discusses using a penis pump and pelvic floor exercises to prevent penis atrophy post-surgery, offering insights into the challenges and humor he’s found in the process.  Melissa provides recommendations on pump use, hair trimming for comfort, and ways to maintain sexual health as part of recovery.  Intimacy and Relationship Adjustments  Changes in Richard's intimate life with his partner, how they’ve adapted their relationship post-surgery, and exploring different forms of intimacy as they age.  Open discussions on same-sex relationships and how prostate cancer impacts sexual health and partnership dynamics.  Personal Reflections and Family Relationships  Richard shares his late-in-life coming out journey, the importance of family connections, and maintaining positive relationships with loved ones, including his ex-wife and daughters.  A heartfelt discussion on cherishing relationships and the importance of support systems through health challenges.  Next Steps and Health Management  Richard’s ongoing regimen: daily use of the penis pump, pelvic floor exercises, upcoming PSA test follow-up, and transitioning from incontinence underwear as his continence improves.  Listen to Richard’s candid account of resilience, adaptation, and love as he navigates life post-prostate cancer. ----------  Websites:  https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/  http://prost.com.au/     Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814    Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA      

For anyone who’s ever felt alone or confused about a sexual health issue, The Penis Project Podcast: Breaking Taboos in Men’s Sexual Health provides a rare and essential space for honest dialogue. Hosted by Australian Nurse Practitioner and Sexologist Melissa Hadley Barrett, this podcast emerged in 2020 from a collaboration with physiotherapist Jo Milios, born from a shared frustration with the silence and stigma surrounding men's bodies. The show has since grown into a substantial resource, with nearly 200 episodes and over 219,000 streams, reflecting its vital role. What you’ll hear here isn’t just theoretical; Melissa blends her clinical expertise with direct, anonymized conversations from her practice, often including the perspectives of patients and their partners. This approach transforms each episode into a nuanced exploration of real-life concerns-from erectile function and pelvic pain to intimacy and communication-topics that are routinely avoided yet universally impactful. The discussions are grounded in science but delivered with a relatable, compassionate tone that makes complex information accessible. Tuning into this podcast means joining a community where awkward questions are welcomed, evidence replaces myth, and personal stories illuminate the path to better health. It’s a practical guide for men and those who care about them, dismantling embarrassment one conversation at a time.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

The Penis Project Podcast: Breaking Taboos in Men’s Sexual Health
Podcast Episodes
148: Prostate Cancer - The Silver Lining/Fit, Fabulous Before 50 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 36:22
On this episode of The Penis Project I chat with Brook, who was diagnosed with prostate cancer at the young age of 47. Having experienced zero symptoms, Brook’s decision to get tested was prompted by his brother's own di…
147. Reece’s Accident at Work, at 17 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 32:42
Injury and Penile Health What would you do if, at 17, you had an accident that affected your sexual function? Today, Reece will answer that question and share with us his story. At 17 years old, Reece had a work accident…
146. Your Partner’s Solution to Painful Sex [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 20:47
Hear it from Sarah and her THERMIVa experience If your partner is experiencing painful sex even while using a lubricant, THERMIva might be the answer. Our guest today, Sarah, was diagnosed with breast cancer at age 36. P…
145. Ryan’s story with HIV; The good, the beautiful, the lemonade [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 53:07
How far has science progressed with treating HIV? Quite far and Ryan will share all the details. Today’s episode will give you a peak into Ryan’s life - from his HIV diagnosis, to breaking the news to his family, to reco…
144. Going Beyond the Dad Bod; Meet Liam [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 44:04
Today, we speak with Liam Sorrell, the founder/director of Grit and Gratitude, and also the chair of Australian Dad’s Network. Both of these organisations have one goal in common, mental health and community. Grit and Gr…
143. Bone Cancer at Age 34 - Recovery, Effects, and 4cms less [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:07:49
Jason was diagnosed with bone cancer in November last year, at the age of 34. First thought to be caused by baby hernia, the massive pain in Jason’s groin was actually due to a large lump over his pelvic bone that was pr…
141. Mike the Determinator and Samantha the Bewitcher [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 50:40
Meet Mike and Samantha, they contacted The Penis Project as they were keen to share their story, which is one of love, connection and romance. Samantha and Mike had been married for 45 years. And through it all, have enj…
140. Valentines Day in June - Meet Harry and Meghan [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 39:11
We’re celebrating Valentines Day this June with our guests Harry and Meghan, a couple with a 37-year marriage and counting. Harry, who had previously battled testicular cancer 20 years ago, now faced a new obstacle at th…