198: The Recovering Man: Life After Prostate Cancer with Mish Middelmann

198: The Recovering Man: Life After Prostate Cancer with Mish Middelmann

Author: Sexologist Melissa Hadley Barrett July 2, 2025 Duration: 1:05:07
In this episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Nurse Practitioner and Sexologist Melissa Hadley Barrett chats with Mish Middelmann — a prostate cancer survivor, men’s leadership coach, and founder of The Recovering Man. Mish is also the author of a book about sex beyond erections, called Beyond Erections - reclaiming sexual pleasure and intimacy with erectile differences. Diagnosed with prostate cancer in 2019, Mish shares his raw and insightful journey of treatment, recovery, and rebuilding life as a man post-cancer. From Johannesburg to Canada, his story spans continents and emotions — and ultimately, his experience led him to create a space for other men navigating the often-silent challenges of prostate cancer recovery.  Mish now supports men and their partners through personalised coaching, offering emotional guidance, tools for self-reinvention, and a path toward rediscovering identity and intimacy. He also speaks about the recent release of his book — including why the original title sparked controversy and was later renamed.    In This Episode, We Cover:  Mish’s prostate cancer diagnosis and the decisions he faced  The physical and psychological recovery process after treatment  How prostate cancer affects male identity, sexuality, and relationships  The importance of support networks for both men and their partners  His work as a men’s health coach and the creation of The Recovering Man  The evolving conversation around masculinity, vulnerability, and healing  Insights from his newly released book on finding sexual pleasure without relying on hard erections.   Key Takeaways:  Life after prostate cancer is about more than just surviving — it’s about reclaiming who you are. Mish encourages men to explore healing not only of the body but also of self-image, connection, and purpose.    Resources & Links:  Book a confidential consult, in clinic or on telehealth, with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic  For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au   Visit The Recovering Man: https://www.recoveringman.net/  – Coaching, articles, and resources for men navigating life after prostate cancer.   Book by Mish Middelmann: Beyond Erections available as paperback or eBook. Details at www.beyonderections.com/book.   Learn more about men’s sexual health services: www.rshealth.com.au  Listen & Subscribe  If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to follow, subscribe to the podcast and help us reach more men by rating and reviewing the show. Because penile health matters — and it’s time we talked about it.  Connect With Us  We love hearing from real people navigating penile health—just like Mish. If you’d like to share your journey or ask a question, get in touch. Email: admin@melissahadleybarrett.com Website: www.rshealth.com.au  Websites:  https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders  https://makehardeasy.com.au   https://melissahadleybarrett.com   http://prost.com.au/     Facebook:  https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814    Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/  https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/  TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett  YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett  Linkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   TEDX  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjHj1YTmLoA 

For anyone who’s ever felt alone or confused about a sexual health issue, The Penis Project Podcast: Breaking Taboos in Men’s Sexual Health provides a rare and essential space for honest dialogue. Hosted by Australian Nurse Practitioner and Sexologist Melissa Hadley Barrett, this podcast emerged in 2020 from a collaboration with physiotherapist Jo Milios, born from a shared frustration with the silence and stigma surrounding men's bodies. The show has since grown into a substantial resource, with nearly 200 episodes and over 219,000 streams, reflecting its vital role. What you’ll hear here isn’t just theoretical; Melissa blends her clinical expertise with direct, anonymized conversations from her practice, often including the perspectives of patients and their partners. This approach transforms each episode into a nuanced exploration of real-life concerns-from erectile function and pelvic pain to intimacy and communication-topics that are routinely avoided yet universally impactful. The discussions are grounded in science but delivered with a relatable, compassionate tone that makes complex information accessible. Tuning into this podcast means joining a community where awkward questions are welcomed, evidence replaces myth, and personal stories illuminate the path to better health. It’s a practical guide for men and those who care about them, dismantling embarrassment one conversation at a time.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

The Penis Project Podcast: Breaking Taboos in Men’s Sexual Health
Podcast Episodes
137. Rise of the Phoenix - Meet Phoenix [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 25:31
Today, we speak with Phoenix, a 54-year-old man, who underwent surgery for prostate cancer in July 2022. Over a period of three years, Phoenix monitored his PSA levels, until one test showed an elevated result and him ex…
136. Doing What Dad Said - Meet Rod [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 48:52
"I hoped I gave you guys the gift of life. Cause unfortunately it’s not gonna work my way. So, it’s up to you guys to get checked regularly and stay in tune". This was Rod’s message from his dad which he religiously heed…
135.Losing Weight After Prostate Cancer Diagnosis; Star Trek Paul [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 36:41
If you’re looking to lose weight and have been finding it difficult, this might just be the podcast for you. In just two months, our guest for today lost 9 kgs. ;) Meet Paul. We also have our guest host, Kendall. Paul wa…
134. Joe’s Prostate CancerJourney [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 32:52
For today’s episode, we have Joe. Joe was diagnosed with Prostate Cancer before his daughter’s wedding. A difficult decision had to be made whether to have his surgery before or after the event. But due to possible Covid…
133. Melissa’s Talk on Sexual Dysfunction [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 55:56
For this episode, get to hear Melissa as she presents her talk on sexual dysfunction, patient perceptions, and more to health practitioners - another step taken to help bridge the gap for Men’s Health. This is the last o…
132. Melissa’s Radio Interview [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 21:15
For this episode, get to hear Melissa’s Plenty Valley FM radio interview - a station all the way from Melbourne. This just shows how The Penis Project is reaching men. So thank you to everyone who is spreading the word a…
131. Melissa in NZ [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 29:41
Last March, Melissa and Dr Jo were invited to speak at a conference in New Zealand. And… you’ll be able to listen to one of those talks, today! For this episode, you’ll get to know more about what Melissa and Dr Jo are d…
130. Lonely Nights, A Poem Reading Episode [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 5:40
It’s the Easter Week and we’d love for you to enjoy this poem as you take a break. ;) This poem is written by Steve Jones, entitled Lonely Nights. Enjoy! For anyone who would like to share their poems and want us to read…
129. The Universe of Deliciousness, With Author Julia Hollenbery [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:09:07
Get ready for a sultry, pleasurable episode with our guest Julia. For today’s episode, we speak with Julia. Julia is the author of the book entitled The Healing Power of Pleasure, Seven Medicines for Rediscovering the In…