424. How to ACTUALLY change your bad habits ft. Harvard Behavioural Scientist, Julia Dhar

424. How to ACTUALLY change your bad habits ft. Harvard Behavioural Scientist, Julia Dhar

Author: iHeartPodcasts June 1, 2026 Duration: 1:01:54

We all have something about our behaviour or our lives we really want to change. But every time we go to try, we find we lose motivation very quickly and end up back where we started with the behaviour still in tact. Whether it's quitting smoking, exercising more, wanting to eat healthier, sleep better, stop gossiping, be a better partner; bad habits usually all have the same psychology. 

In today's episode we invited on Harvard-trained behavioural scientist & BCG Managing Director, Julia Dhar, to give us the step by step guide to changing bad habits. We talk about: 

  • Where bad habits come from? 
  • Why bad habits stick?
  • What's happening in our brain when we can't quit a bad habit?
  • The 3 principles of behaviour change you need to know to change 
  • How to help OTHERS change when they don't want to?
  • Why your approach to failing will determine if you're successful 
  • Plus much more! 

Happy listening! 

Buy Julia's book here: How Change Really Works

Watch her TedTalk here: How to Disagree Productively 

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Navigating your twenties can feel like a constant, bewildering experiment where you're both the scientist and the subject. The Psychology of your 20s, hosted by Jemma Sbeg, treats this unique decade with the thoughtful analysis it deserves. Released every Tuesday and Friday, each episode picks apart a specific thread of the modern twentysomething experience-whether it's the anxiety of mapping out a career, the complexities of dating apps, the strain on friendships, or the stress of managing money for the first time. Jemma grounds these universal themes in psychological research and science, offering clarity on why this period feels so tumultuous. The conversations move beyond simple advice, instead providing a framework for understanding the mental and emotional underpinnings of decisions big and small. This isn't a lecture; it's a companionable exploration of the growing pains that define adulthood's first chapter. Tuning into this podcast feels like gaining a new lens on your own life, one that transforms confusion into comprehension. It’s produced by iHeartPodcasts.
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