LGBTQIA Adoption: How to Afford $50K in Costs

LGBTQIA Adoption: How to Afford $50K in Costs

Author: Jaimie Kelton – Queer Parenting & LGBTQ Families'. September 23, 2024 Duration: 49:16

In the second episode of the series, "Nicole and Shannon Want a Baby, or Do They?," Jaimie, Nicole, and Shannon sit down with Becky Fawcett, founder of HelpUsAdopt.org, a nonprofit offering financial grants to help families cover adoption costs. Becky shares her personal adoption journey, the unique challenges faced by LGBTQIA+ families, and the vital role of both financial and emotional support. They discuss the costs of adoption, foster-to-adopt options, and the collaboration between adoption and fertility communities—all with a focus on inclusivity and making parenthood accessible to all.

Join us in the weeks to come as we speak with experts from organizations, guiding Nicole and Shannon—and listeners—through the many paths to parenthood available to queer folks.

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🏳️‍🌈Key Takeaways:🏳️‍🌈 

  • Becky Fawcett's organization, Help Us Adopt, provides grants up to $20,000 to assist families in covering these expenses.
  • Inclusivity in Adoption: Help Us Adopt is committed to supporting diverse families, including LGBTQIA individuals, single parents, and people of color, counteracting the inequities present in traditional adoption grant programs.
  • The Adoption Process Explained: The episode breaks down the costs and steps involved in domestic adoption, highlighting the need for transparency and the complexities surrounding agency and attorney fees.
  • Emotional Aspects of Adoption: Personal stories and experiences are shared to address common fears and misconceptions about non-bio connections and the emotional journey of adopting.
  • Resource Accessibility: Becky emphasizes the importance of making adoption resources and professional contacts accessible to everyone, especially those of us in underserved communities.


🏳️‍🌈About The Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈 

  • Becky Fawcett is the founder of Help Us Adopt, a nonprofit organization that provides financial grants to help families cover adoption costs. She adopted both of her daughters domestically and became deeply immersed in the adoption community. Fawcett's mission is to support and advocate for a diverse range of prospective adoptive parents, including LGBTQIA families, single parents, and people of color. Her dedication stems from recognizing the inequities in adoption support and a personal commitment to making adoption accessible for all.
  • Nicole and Shannon: Nicole is the long-time assistant and right-hand human on The Queer Family Podcast. She has been working on the show for two years, helping to highlight, uplift, and normalize LGBTQIA families. Shannon, Nicole's wife, comes from a background in working with children, particularly in the foster care system. Together, they explore the complexities and considerations of starting a family as a queer couple.

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Hosted by queer mom Jaimie Kelton, The Queer Family Podcast-LGBTQ Families & Queer Parenting Stories offers a weekly space that is both uproariously funny and deeply genuine. Each episode features conversations with LGBTQIA+ parents, hopeful parents, and their allies, delving into the specific joys and hurdles of building a family outside of traditional frameworks. You’ll hear firsthand accounts of the paths to parenthood-from adoption and fostering to IVF and surrogacy-and the everyday realities of raising kids in a world that can still feel unfamiliar. This podcast moves beyond theory, focusing on lived experiences that cover everything from health and fitness routines that work for queer families to navigating complex conversations about sexuality and society with children. The goal is straightforward: to share stories that normalize these experiences, elevate diverse voices, and celebrate the full spectrum of queer family life. Tuning in means connecting with a community, finding resonance in shared challenges, and gathering a lot of practical wisdom-and laughter-along the way. It’s a resource and a companion for anyone curious about or living within the beautifully expansive definition of a modern family.
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