Stop Letting People Speak to Your Past | Episode 166

Stop Letting People Speak to Your Past | Episode 166

Author: Darnell & Traci Self February 10, 2026 Duration: 21:38

Are the people around you speaking to who you were

or who you’re becoming?

In this episode of The Self Talk Experience, Darnell and Traci unpack a powerful mindset shift that can change your relationships—and your future.

Many of us struggle with self-sabotage not because we lack ability, but because we stay connected to environments that only recognize our past. When people constantly remind you of who you used to be, it becomes harder to step into who you’re meant to become.

This conversation dives into:

  • Why self-talk shapes your trajectory
  • The difference between being “nice” and being truly kind
  • The power of edification (building others up)
  • Why tearing down is easy—but building up requires intention
  • How communication can revive relationships that matter
  • Why you must speak to your own future self—even if no one else does

If no one around you is speaking life into the person you’re becoming, start doing it yourself.

Because the things you say to yourself about yourself eventually determine what you attract for yourself.

https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self


https://www.instagram.com/traciself


https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/



Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Darnell and Traci Self start from a fascinating premise: with tens of thousands of thoughts running through our minds each day, the internal conversations we hold have immense power. In The Self Talk Experience Podcast, this husband-and-wife team explores how deliberately reshaping that inner dialogue transformed their own marriage, family dynamics, and professional lives. Their conversations feel like sitting down with insightful friends who’ve done the work, moving beyond theory into the practical realities of applying these principles. Each episode delves into how our self-narratives influence everything from personal health and fitness goals to navigating business challenges and fostering deeper connections with our kids. Rather than offering quick fixes, Darnell and Traci share their ongoing journey, discussing the tangible shifts that occur when we examine the stories we tell ourselves. Tuning into this podcast means hearing honest reflections on mental habits, their impact on relationships, and how a simple change in perspective can attract different outcomes. It’s a personal exploration of the space where thought meets experience, grounded in the belief that the most important conversation you have all day is the one you have with yourself.
Author: Language: en-us Episodes: 100

The Self Talk Experience Podcast
Podcast Episodes
Focusing On The Positive : How To Brighten Your Life | Episode 131 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 18:51
If you want to know how to reframe your thoughts this is the episode for you Live from Arizona, we are going to talk about why t’s not about waiting to see the light at the end of the tunnel—there is always some light, e…
How to Conquer Imposter Syndrome for Good | Episode 130 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 16:14
Today, we're diving deep into the topic of imposter syndrome and the crucial role self talk plays in overcoming it. Imposter syndrome makes many feel like their achievements are just luck or external factors, causing sel…
Why Short-Term Sacrifices Lead to Long-Term Wins | Episode 128 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 21:48
There is a common misconception that success always equates to fun. In this episode, we're going to explore why consistently pushing through challenging tasks. Whether it is the importance of self-talk, resilience, and m…
How Do You Create A SHARED VISION (The Truth)| Episode 127 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 21:39
Its time to dive into the importance of having a shared vision in your relationships, whether personal or professional! Remember, anything you do or don't do becomes a habit, so start small and commit to yourself and you…
The SECRET To Staying Married Forever! | Episode 126 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 28:53
We are celebrating our 30th wedding anniversary! In this episode we are going to enjoy it with you by sharing valuable insights on how to navigate challenges and maintain a strong, loving relationship. 💍We'll get into th…
Wanting What Will NEVER HAPPEN! | Episode 125 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 20:21
Join us as we delve into the powerful themes of self-talk, growth, and the art of reframing life's experiences. In this episode, we explore the difference between truth and facts, and how our perceptions can shape our re…
Truth Matters: The Power of Honest Self-Talk | Episode 124 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 19:11
Being honest with yourself is key to setting realistic goals and achieving personal growth. From the importance of having tough conversations to recognizing and accepting our strengths and weaknesses, Traci and Darnell b…