#52: Interpersonal Effectiveness Overview

#52: Interpersonal Effectiveness Overview

Author: Bay Area DBT & Couples Counseling Center January 27, 2023 Duration: 49:38

This episode is an overview of the core Interpersonal Effectiveness skills in DBT, focusing on clarifying objectives, DEAR MAN, GIVE, and FAST. 

There are a lot of acronyms in the Interpersonal Effectiveness module! Memorizing what each letter of the acronym stands for, especially DEAR MAN, can help you access the skill when you most need it. The best way to memorize the DEAR MAN script is to write it out again and again until you've mastered it.

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DBT Skills Discussed

DEAR MAN

GIVE

FAST

Validation

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