Ep. 27 - Kinky Dating vs. D/s Practitioners & Mentors

Ep. 27 - Kinky Dating vs. D/s Practitioners & Mentors

Author: Dr. K - Holistic Sexuality Educator May 22, 2021 Duration: 33:04

Hey there all! One of the questions I get asked the most is "How do I find a Mistress or Dom as a life partner?" and quite often, there is a misunderstanding of the differences between looking for a romantic life-partner who will share a D/s dynamic with you vs. a trained practitioner who works with you, mentors you, or engages in a more contractual D/s dynamic, but is not in a romantic relationship with you. Here, I'm going to cover some of the differences, and ways you can incorporate a subtle nod to your desired lifestyle or identity while in the dating scene.

Links for this episode:

Follow Dating Kinky on IG at https://www.instagram.com/datingkinkyofficial

Visit the blog articles on dating in kink and D/s on the NCSF Site

Kasidie (primarily swingers but many kinksters can be found here too and events are regularly updated for kink/play parties)

Swing Lifestyle (again, primarily swingers but many kinksters can be found here too)

Cosmopolitan released a list of kink/fetish/BDSM couples and dating aps located HERE that's worth a look. 

Twitch with me! 

Video Podcast YouTube Version

Resources:

Consent Counts Resources from the NCSF (National Council for Sexual Freedom) 

About SESTA/FOSTA: Information relating to how the changes in the law have to affect TOS across social media and inadvertently creating issues for those in the field of sexual and reproductive health.

Reid's Safer Sex Elevator Speech

 


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In a world where conversations about sexuality are often reduced to clichés or clinical terms, The Submissive Next Door Podcast offers a different space. Hosted by Dr. K, a holistic sexuality educator and empowerment coach, this series explores the nuanced realities of kink, BDSM, and alternative lifestyles from a place of lived experience. Dr. K brings her multifaceted perspective as a fitness trainer, a practitioner devoted to tantra and embodiment, and someone who identifies as a 24/7 submissive. Each episode is a candid discussion that moves beyond titillation to examine the intersections of erotic intelligence, holistic living, and personal power. You’ll hear thoughtful explorations of how submission, dominance, and conscious intimacy fit into a full, integrated life. This podcast dismantles stereotypes, offering listeners a resource that is as intellectually engaging as it is personally relevant. It’s about the practical philosophy of relationships and self-discovery, framed through an unflinchingly honest and compassionate lens. For anyone curious about the deeper layers of desire and connection, this show provides a grounded, educational, and deeply human entry point. Tune in for conversations that honor the complexity of human sexuality with authenticity and care.
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