Ep. 41 - BDSM & D/s Myths: Breaking Down Common Misconceptions

Ep. 41 - BDSM & D/s Myths: Breaking Down Common Misconceptions

Author: Dr. K - Holistic Sexuality Educator August 14, 2022 Duration: 54:32

We have all heard some myths about BDSM, Kink, and D/s. For those in the communities, these can feel like a slap in the face and often result in shame that hurts on a deeper level than even humiliation play can reach. They also result in misunderstandings and total avoidance to learning more about the world of kink and BDSM to those new to this world. It's time to dispel some that have made their way across my desk recently and provide the research to disprove them, as well as insight into what it's really like in a consensual dynamic. 

Links for this episode:

Case Study: What Is So Appealing About Being Spanked, Flogged, Dominated, or Restrained? Answers from Practitioners of Sexual Masochism/Submission  published in the Journal of Sex Research

Case Study: Curative Kink: Survivors of Early Abuse Transform Trauma through BDSM published in The Journal of Sexual and Relationship Therapy

Case Study: A Systematic Scoping Review of the Prevalence, Etiological, Psychological, and Interpersonal Factors Associated with BDSM published in the Journal of Sex Research

Case Study: Bondage- Discipline, Dominance - Submission and Sadomasochism (BDSM) From an Integrative Biopsychosocial Perspective: A Systematic Review  published in the Journal Of Sexual Medicine

Book: The Leather Couch: Clinical Practice with Kinky Clients by Dr. Sefani Goerlich

Article: 94 Non-Binary BDSM Names for Doms & Subs by Sunny Megatron

Book: Come as You Are by Dr. Emily Nagowski

Book: The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk

Book: Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships by Stella Harris

Book: Becoming Cliterate by Laurie Mintz

Book: Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples by Helen LaKelly Hunt  (Great info on the Imago Dialogue)

Additional Resources:

Site: The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

Site: AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists)

Site: TASHRA (The Alternative Sexualities Health Research Alliance)

Site: TASHRA's Research

Site: The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality

Site: Center for Positive Sexuality

Site: Sexual Health Alliance 

Site: Kinsey Institute of Indiana University

Dr. K's Official Goodreads page – For the Book Lover

Dr. K's Official Website

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Digital Magazine - Intellectual Intoxication - Dr. K's Gallery Musings & Gallery 

Dr. K's  Kink-Affirming Holistic Coaching Practice

Additional Resources:

Consent Counts Resources from the NCSF (National Council for Sexual Freedom) 

About SESTA/FOSTA: Information relating to how the changes in the law have to affect TOS across social media and inadvertently create issues for those in the field of sexual and reproductive health.

Reid's Safer Sex Elevator Speech

Dr. K's Official Goodreads page – For the Book Lover

 

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In a world where conversations about sexuality are often reduced to clichés or clinical terms, The Submissive Next Door Podcast offers a different space. Hosted by Dr. K, a holistic sexuality educator and empowerment coach, this series explores the nuanced realities of kink, BDSM, and alternative lifestyles from a place of lived experience. Dr. K brings her multifaceted perspective as a fitness trainer, a practitioner devoted to tantra and embodiment, and someone who identifies as a 24/7 submissive. Each episode is a candid discussion that moves beyond titillation to examine the intersections of erotic intelligence, holistic living, and personal power. You’ll hear thoughtful explorations of how submission, dominance, and conscious intimacy fit into a full, integrated life. This podcast dismantles stereotypes, offering listeners a resource that is as intellectually engaging as it is personally relevant. It’s about the practical philosophy of relationships and self-discovery, framed through an unflinchingly honest and compassionate lens. For anyone curious about the deeper layers of desire and connection, this show provides a grounded, educational, and deeply human entry point. Tune in for conversations that honor the complexity of human sexuality with authenticity and care.
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