Ambiguous Grief

Ambiguous Grief

Author: VietnameseBoatPeople.org July 27, 2022 Duration: 36:51
Thi and Phuong Nam Doan are two sisters born in Portland, Oregon. In 2020, their mom was diagnosed with lewy body dementia, a type of progressive dementia that leads to a decline in thinking, reasoning and independent function. The family has been navigating how to take care of a woman who used to take care of them. Their cousin, Andy Nguyen remembers how his aunt has always been like a second mother to him. The three grew up as a very close unit and they share how much the mom is the foundation in their lives. She is the matriarch of their family, the eldest who always cared for her younger siblings, the driving force behind the parents' escape from Vietnam and the caregiver to many. The recent news of the diagnosis has been hard for the family, and also the mom who has a hard time accepting it, feeling guilt and shame for putting a burden on her family. The three cousins share how they are navigating ambiguous loss/grief, a term that describes the grief one may feel for a loved one who has dementia.  If you or someone you know has been diagnosed with dementia, here are some resources shared by Thi Doan.  https://www.asianmhc.org/ has a directory of Asian American therapistsFamily Caregiver Handout in VietnameseFact Sheet on Dementia in VietnameseInformation on Dementia in VietnameseFor Lewy Body DementiaFor Alzheimer's DementiaA podcast by Bambu care called "What the Dementia"  Episode Cover Art: https://www.thidoanart.com 4thWorldPress: The Day I Woke Up Different  Episode Credits:Executive Producer: Tracey Nguyen MangAssociate Producer: Tricia VuongVBP theme music: Clarity, Paulina VoOther music: Heat Dream: Patrick Latham, Marigold Spring: Daniel Kaede, Recovering Hope: Spirits of Our Dreams, First Time for Everything: Trevor Kowalski

There are stories that shape history, and then there are the ones history nearly forgot, carried across oceans by those who lived them. The Vietnamese Boat People is a collection of those voices. This podcast moves beyond the broad statistics of the post-war exodus, focusing instead on the intimate, human-scale narratives of what was lost and what was forged. From 1975 into the early 1990s, nearly two million people made the desperate choice to flee by sea, embarking on journeys where the outcome was never certain. Through firsthand accounts and curated interviews, each episode delves into the complex tapestry of hope, profound loss, and quiet resilience. You’ll hear not just about the perilous escapes and the struggle for survival against pirates, starvation, and storms, but also about the nuanced reality of resettlement and the long process of building a new life in a foreign land. Created by VietnameseBoatPeople.org, the series serves as an essential oral history archive, ensuring the term "Vietnamese Boat People" is understood not as a monolithic label, but as representing millions of individual dreams and enduring spirits. Tune in for a deeply personal exploration of a defining chapter in modern diaspora, where every conversation reveals the weight of memory and the strength required to cross an unimaginable horizon.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 61

The Vietnamese Boat People
Podcast Episodes
#10 - The Guy Who Steered the Ship [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 16:05
Leo was only 26 years old, one of the youngest crewmen on the US Navy chartered military vessel, the SS Trans Colorado. On August 11, 1980 in the midst of a storm, Leo was on watch to steer the ship, when he spotted a sm…
#9 - Cultural Understanding [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 19:30
In 1980, Nesta arrived at the Singapore Refugee camp for the first time, looking to do something meaningful with her time and skills. At first, she was overwhelmed by the chaos and traumatic experiences that the refugees…
#8 - Sound of Freedom [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 15:48
Meredith couldn’t bare to sit back and watch the boat people crisis unfold in the news. In 1979, she was among one of the first to volunteer at a makeshift refugee camp at 25 Hawkins Road, Sembawang, Singapore; the site…
#7 Bonus Episode: A Liminal Space [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 16:22
VBP Student Spotlight: Tuan Pham, a graduate student from Yale School of Art, talks about living in a liminal space as an immigrant in America. As a child transitioning and navigating the ‘unknown’ he was constantly tryi…
#6 Bonus Episode: Understanding One’s Narrative [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 12:55
VBP Student Spotlight: Beatrice Bui, a student from University of California Berkley, shares how her family came to America and how the stories of the Vietnamese diaspora has influenced her as a designer. She won the VBP…
#5 - Slumdog Brothers [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 21:03
Chris is the third child out of seven kids. He remembers vivdily the drastic change overnight of going from riches to rags, from pampered baby to slumdog in a war-torn country. He did whatever it took to survive and make…
#4 - Riches to Rags [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 25:12
Steve, born in 1961 in Vietnam, was only 14 years old when the South had lost the war to North Vietnam. The eldest son of a socialite family, Steve’s childhood was filled with whatever he wanted. All of that disappeared…
#3 - Three Days Old - Part 2 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 13:59
Episode 3 continues the story of JoAnh who was just three days old when her family had to flee the city of Da Nang Vietnam, just 30 days before the Fall of Saigon. After the war ended, families were stripped of any wealt…
#2 - Three Days Old - Part 1 [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 18:16
On March 30, 1975, a Saigon government spokesman said that radio contact with South Vietnamese port of Da Nang had been lost, indicating that the city had fallen to the North Vietnamese. Just days before, a mother wrappe…
#1 - Prelude [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 10:22
Hi I'm Tracey Nguyen Mang. I was just under four years old when my Mom organized an escaped from the Vietnamese Communist regime in 1981. With nothing but clothes on our backs, she left everything behind and took three g…