Heal Yourself First: The Problem with Trendy Spirituality

Heal Yourself First: The Problem with Trendy Spirituality

Author: Stop chasing. Start attracting. August 12, 2025 Duration: 10:59

Before you try to heal the world, there’s a crucial first step we’re skipping in our rush for spiritual trends.

Everywhere you look these days, it seems people are identifying as “spiritual”. The landscape is filled with a vast menu of appealing modalities: breathwork, meditation, sound healing, Reiki, tarot, and forest bathing, to name a few. These tools can be amazing, but a nagging question arises: Are we truly going deep enough with the concept of spirituality, or are we just taking it at the surface level and running with it?.

There’s a pattern emerging that looks a lot like diet culture. When working in fitness and nutrition, I saw how people clung to their favorite diet almost like a religion. Whether it was weight-loss shakes, high-fat diets, or intermittent fasting, many believed their method was the best and only way. Over time, however, our understanding of health has deepened. We’ve moved from just counting calories to focusing on food quality and even gut health, realizing there is no “one size fits all” solution. It is critical that we don’t make the same mistake with our spiritual journey that we made with our health journey.

The real danger lies in running with the first modality that appeals to us without understanding its foundational purpose. A person might benefit from breathwork and immediately feel compelled to teach it, believing it will change everyone's life. But it won’t be the right fit for everybody. Some people might find more comfort and peace from ice plungers, astrology, or sound healing. The purpose of spirituality is not to become a healer or make money selling these modalities. In fact, I would caution everyone against this. It worries me to see healers who are not doing the work to heal themselves first. We simply cannot heal the world when we are not healed ourselves.

So, what is the point of a spiritual journey? Its primary function is to help you deal with the stress, pressures, and suffering in your own life so you can release it and become free and liberated. The first step should always be to understand ourselves through the lens of our spirit. Ask yourself: Is my spirit and my life in alignment?. Do I feel the joy and peace I’m looking for, or am I experiencing conflict on the inside?. If there is conflict, the work is to heal that first before trying to go out and help others.

This is a long journey, and we are all at different stages. Some of us are not yet aware of what needs to heal , while others have not fully accepted the past stories that need work. The path is to go through your own karmic cycles of pain, process the emotions, and use your human abilities to communicate and take action to heal.

Only then, from a place of inner peace and alignment, can you naturally go out and help people where they are. This is how we create collective healing—by learning our own lessons first and then teaching them to those around us who need to hear them.

I encourage you to look at spirituality in your own way and redefine it for yourself. My current definition is to get to know your soul and to honor its truth at every single moment. When you honor your truth, you won’t be in conflict with yourself or anyone else.

So, before you try to heal the world, dig deep. Take time for reflection and introspection to see where you are on your journey. If you find that you are at peace and in full alignment, then by all means, go forward and help others. That is what we are here to do

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About the Creator

Chitra Rochlani is a Wellness Coach, Speaker, and best-selling author of She’s on a mission to help her clients eliminate stress and loneliness, feel more aligned, and live a life of fulfillment and passion.As a medium and intuitive healer, she educates and empowers her clients to tap into their most underutilized superpower—their intuition—to navigate their lives and make WINx3 decisions.She uses her P.F.H. (Peel, Feel, Heal) framework to inspire transformation through:

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