From Death to Rebirth: A Spiritual and Sexual Awakening at 50

From Death to Rebirth: A Spiritual and Sexual Awakening at 50

Author: Samantha Fox May 24, 2026 Duration: 45:58

Cate came out at 50 after 18 years as a stay-at-home mom. She was married, raising two kids, and slowly disappearing. Today, she's divorced, working as a death doula and hospice volunteer coordinator, and living alone for the first time in her entire life. On her birthday.

Sam and Cate dive into what it actually takes to move through the death of old identities and into the rebirth of your authentic self. Cate shares how turning the camera inward during her photography practice sparked a voice that said "I am gay," how she navigated coming out to her son during prom weekend, and the breathtaking moment she came out to her dying father in the hospital with a pride flag flashing on the screen behind him.

They talk about the spiritual side of coming out: the fire, the energy, the zinging in your womb space that you can't explain. How fear is a compass, not something to overcome. How pain alchemizes into power if you let it. And why coming out isn't about being with a woman—it's about learning to love yourself as a woman who loves women.

Cate also shares how she published her coming out story in the New York Times Modern Love, how she found her calling in end-of-life care during the same years she was coming into herself, and what it's like to finally feel fully alive after decades of self-abandonment.

This episode is a love letter to every woman in the messy middle wondering if rebirth is possible. Cate is proof that it is.

Unbox Yourself with Samantha Fox® is the podcast for late bloomer women ready to stop performing and start living.



Samantha Fox hosts Unbox Yourself: Sexual Identity and Coming Out Later in Life, a space dedicated to the nuanced and often unspoken journey of discovering one's sexuality after years lived within a different narrative. This podcast moves beyond theory, focusing instead on the lived experiences of individuals who navigate the complexities of self-discovery and coming out in adulthood. You'll hear candid, personal stories that illuminate the challenges and profound liberation found in breaking free from compulsory heterosexuality and societal expectations. Samantha guides these real, raw conversations with empathy, creating a weekly dialogue that feels both intimate and universally resonant for anyone questioning or redefining their identity. The discussions naturally touch on themes across relationships, mental and emotional health, and the cultural pressures that shape our lives. Tuning into this podcast means joining a community that values authenticity over ease, offering support and clarity for those stepping into a more truthful existence. It’s about the practical and emotional work of unboxing your true self, one story at a time.
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