When Obsession Feels Like Love: Limerence in WLW Relationships with Christine Vargo, LCSW

When Obsession Feels Like Love: Limerence in WLW Relationships with Christine Vargo, LCSW

Author: Samantha Fox June 14, 2026 Duration: 54:46

This episode is for women who are navigating WLW attraction, relationships, and the confusing space between obsession and love—especially if you're a late bloomer lesbian or came out later in life.

In this conversation with therapist Christine Vargo, LCSW, we talk about:

  • What limerence is and how it's different from love
  • Why lesbians U-haul and move so fast in relationships
  • The role of childhood trauma, neurodivergence, and attachment in limerence
  • Red flags when you think you're in love after a week (or a month)
  • Why no contact is essential after a breakup
  • How to stay with yourself in relationship and slow down
  • The "bump contract" and what your relationships are here to teach you

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Christine is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Certified Gestalt Therapist, trained Daring Way™ Facilitator, and founder of The Real Poetic Paradox, LLC — a coaching business dedicated to supporting the LGBTQIA+ community in navigating relational dynamics, self-abandonment, and limerence. With over 13 years in private practice and an integrative approach rooted in trauma-informed care, Internal Family Systems, Somatic therapy, and Human Design, Christine brings both clinical expertise and deep compassion to her 1:1 work, clinical supervision, and groups.

In addition to her one on one work with clients, Christine is currently offering monthly group sessions for queer women navigating the experience of limerence, self-abandonment or trying to understand attachment dynamics in relationships. 

She’ll be launching her first online course: The Art of Staying: The Self-Trust Method for Love That Doesn’t Cost You Yourself in the Fall/Winter 2026.


Samantha Fox hosts Unbox Yourself: Sexual Identity and Coming Out Later in Life, a space dedicated to the nuanced and often unspoken journey of discovering one's sexuality after years lived within a different narrative. This podcast moves beyond theory, focusing instead on the lived experiences of individuals who navigate the complexities of self-discovery and coming out in adulthood. You'll hear candid, personal stories that illuminate the challenges and profound liberation found in breaking free from compulsory heterosexuality and societal expectations. Samantha guides these real, raw conversations with empathy, creating a weekly dialogue that feels both intimate and universally resonant for anyone questioning or redefining their identity. The discussions naturally touch on themes across relationships, mental and emotional health, and the cultural pressures that shape our lives. Tuning into this podcast means joining a community that values authenticity over ease, offering support and clarity for those stepping into a more truthful existence. It’s about the practical and emotional work of unboxing your true self, one story at a time.
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