Ep121. Why we reach for comfort, even when we know it isn't working for us anymore

Ep121. Why we reach for comfort, even when we know it isn't working for us anymore

Author: Online Women's Health & Fitness coach |Hayley Kirby July 1, 2025 Duration: 33:58


In this episode of we dive into self-soothing. It's a powerful coping mechanism that often nudges us toward habits we know aren’t helping us. We'll unpack the science behind stress-driven behaviors and share practical, sensory-based tools you can use when stress hits, so you stay calm, confident, and connected to your goals. I talk about why self-soothing isn’t selfish, it’s often survival. I talk about simple actions like a 20‑second hug or how weighted blankets can trigger actual physiological calm (lowering cortisol, whilst increasing oxytocin).

Reframing self soothing and recharging when we're using useful tool and the extra sense of pride you'll feel on the days where things aren't going to plan.


To reach out just email Hayley@thegoodplace.uk


Hayley


Hayley Kirby is an online women's health and fitness coach with two decades of professional experience that runs parallel to her sixteen years as a parent, and she brings all of that hard-won wisdom to Wear the Damn Shorts. The title is a nod to the confidence and self-acceptance this podcast champions, moving beyond theory into the messy, wonderful reality of daily life. Here, actionable science isn't presented in a vacuum; it's thoughtfully woven into discussions about fitness, nutrition, and mental resilience that acknowledge the constant juggle of responsibilities. Hayley acts as your grounded guide, cutting through overwhelming trends and quick fixes to offer sustainable strategies. Episodes are built around the genuine questions and challenges faced by her real clients, making every conversation relatable. You'll find practical advice on maintaining motivation, shifting your mindset, and creating habits that actually last, all while navigating the beautiful chaos of parenting, career, and personal doubts. This isn't about adding more to your to-do list, but about finding a more compassionate and effective path to your own well-being. Tune in for a deeply human take on self-improvement that feels like a conversation with a knowledgeable friend who truly understands the struggle.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

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