New Practices for 2025- Episode#796

New Practices for 2025- Episode#796

Author: Todd and Cathy Adams December 31, 2024 Duration: 58:45

Todd and Cathy discussed various TV shows, movies, and practices to improve mental and emotional well-being, including gratitude lists, morning pages, and yogic adjustments. They also emphasized the importance of prioritization, effective task management, and creating playlists for personal enjoyment and staying connected with others. Lastly, they touched on the concept of meditation, the importance of initiating conversations with daughters, and the need for nonjudgmental and engaging interactions.

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Meeting summary for zpr (12/30/2024)

Quick recap

Todd and Kathy discussed various TV shows, movies, and practices to improve mental and emotional well-being, including gratitude lists, morning pages, and yogic adjustments. They also emphasized the importance of prioritization, effective task management, and creating playlists for personal enjoyment and staying connected with others. Lastly, they touched on the concept of meditation, the importance of initiating conversations with daughters, and the need for nonjudgmental and engaging interactions.

Summary

Avoiding Disappointment and Classic Sitcoms
Todd prepares to record a podcast episode discussing ideas for avoiding disappointment in the new year. Instead of making resolutions, Kathy suggests 10 enjoyable practices that can improve life. Before that, they pay tribute to the recently deceased Linda Lavin from the show Alice and former President Jimmy Carter. Todd and Kathy reminisce about 1970s and 80s sitcoms like Alice that reflected more realistic family situations. They fondly recall memorable catchphrases from those classic shows that audiences eagerly awaited.

TV Shows, Movies, and Parenting Conference
Todd discussed various TV shows and movies, including Hill Street Blues, Hawaii 5-0, and The A-Team. He also mentioned his boss sending stone crabs every year and the catchphrase “make it so” from Star Trek: The Next Generation. Todd then promoted the upcoming Zen Parenting Conference, encouraging listeners to invest in themselves and their families. He also shared his thoughts on eccentric director Boz Luhrman and his dislike for musicals, except for Wicked and Blues Brothers. Lastly, Todd mentioned a movie he watched called Bad Christmas Moms.

Improving Mental Well-Being Practices
Todd discussed various practices to improve mental and emotional well-being. He suggested starting the day with a gratitude list, a brain dump through morning pages, and writing letters from love. He also recommended a yogic adjustment called’shoulders back’ to improve posture and breathing. Todd emphasized the importance of these practices in shifting one’s mindset and promoting positivity. He also mentioned his intention to share more about these practices in his substack.

Todd’s Emotional Flu and Memories
Todd discusses crying while watching several movies due to being sick with the flu. He reflects that grief and sadness can get “stuck” in the lungs according to Eastern medicine beliefs. Todd attributes his susceptibility to illness partly to unresolved emotions needing release, in addition to exposure to germs. He and his friend reminisce about an amusing “Pants on the Ground” performance from American Idol.

Promoting Mindfulness and Self-Care Practices
Todd discussed various practices to promote mindfulness and self-care. He emphasized the importance of taking breaks, such as lying on the ground to release stress and gain positive energy. He also highlighted the value of gratitude texts, which can be sent to express appreciation for others. Todd also stressed the importance of weekly opt-outs, allowing individuals to reassess their commitments and prioritize their well-being. He used the metaphor of pebbling, likening the act of sending texts or gifts to offering love and support. Todd encouraged the practice of recognizing and opting out of obligations that may not be necessary, promoting a sense of freedom and choice.

Eisenhower Matrix and Vision Boards
Todd discussed the importance of prioritization and managing tasks effectively. He introduced the Eisenhower Matrix, a tool for categorizing tasks into urgent and important, important but not urgent, urgent but not important, and not urgent or important. He emphasized that tasks should be delegated when they are urgent but not important, and distractions should be eliminated. Todd also shared his personal approach to creating a vision board or mood board, which he uses to set a desired vibe or feeling. He suggested that these tools can be used to guide decision-making and help individuals stay focused on their goals.

Creating Personalized Playlists for Connection
Todd discussed the benefits of creating playlists for personal enjoyment and staying connected with others. He suggested making playlists for oneself, such as songs from different eras or genres, and also creating playlists based on recommendations from others, like family members. Todd also emphasized the importance of asking for favorites, such as books, movies, and podcasts, from others to discover new content. He shared his own experiences of using these methods to stay connected with his family and to find new content to enjoy.

Exploring Meditation and Accountability
Todd and the speaker discussed the concept of meditation and its various forms. Todd suggested that the speaker could try different approaches to meditation, such as taking a meditative walk or sitting quietly with someone. He also proposed the idea of having an accountability partner to help maintain a creative meditation practice. The speaker agreed to consider these suggestions, acknowledging the value of rethinking and reframing meditation. They also discussed the importance of not being too rigid in their practices and being open to change if something isn’t working.

Initiating Conversations With Daughters
Todd discussed the importance of initiating conversations with their daughters, emphasizing the need for nonjudgmental and engaging interactions. He highlighted the use of specific questions to encourage open dialogue and the importance of responding to statements without judgment. Todd also stressed the need to manage one’s own discomfort during conversations and the importance of being vulnerable. He encouraged everyone to read his book, which serves as a roadmap for solid conversations with daughters, and to leave reviews on platforms like Amazon and Goodreads to keep the book relevant.


Think of a song that instantly transports you back to a specific moment, or a movie line that perfectly captures a feeling you couldn't name. That's the territory explored in Zen Pop. Hosted by Todd and Cathy Adams, this podcast isn't just a review show; it's a conversation that uses the shared language of pop culture-from classic films and TV to the soundtrack of a generation-as a starting point for something more personal. Each discussion begins with a familiar piece of music, a film, or a cultural moment, then gently unfolds into a deeper look at our own emotional blueprints, relationships, and the ways our past informs our present. The tone is grounded, often humorous, and carries a distinctly Gen X perspective, treating the artifacts of our collective memory not as mere entertainment, but as mirrors reflecting our patterns, blind spots, and ongoing growth. Listening to this podcast feels like having a thoughtful, nostalgic, and surprisingly insightful chat with old friends who believe that the movies we quote and the songs we replay have a lot more to teach us about who we are and how we connect. It’s about finding the quiet wisdom hidden in the noise of popular culture.
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