387: Why Calming Yourself Helps Calm Your Child // Eli Harwood

387: Why Calming Yourself Helps Calm Your Child // Eli Harwood

Author: Cloud10 September 5, 2024 Duration: 17:39
This bonus excerpt is one I pulled from Eli's full episode that dropped earlier this week. (If you haven't had a chance to listen, I highly recommend it. It's one of the most value-packed conversations I've had on 3 in 30!) Because it was so value-packed, we had to trim it to 30 minutes, and I didn't want you to miss out on this fascinating part of the conversation, so I decided to make it a bonus episode. These thoughts from Eli on co-regulation for parents blew my mind!   I mean, I had heard of co-regulation before, but the scientific evidence behind it is fascinating! I had no idea there were nerve fibers that are activated when I caress my child, and these nerve fibers calm my child's heart down! It takes the old adage "If Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy" to a whole new level. 🤯  Eli's explanation of the science behind co-regulation helps me understand why it is so vital that moms proactively do soul-care. It literally helps us build a buffer so that we don't dysregulate when our kids are dysregulated. It's so powerful!  (By the way, I just did a mini episode on soul-care! Click below to check it out!) Taking care of ourselves helps us avoid losing our tempers and doing and saying things we regret.  If you want to explore managing your anger so it doesn't negatively impact your children's sense of connection to you, be sure to attend my live online masterclasses over these next two weeks on how to "reroute your mom rage." Click below to sign up! *** Announcements: Sign up for my FREE masterclass to learn all about rerouting your mom rage! Purchase Eli's Book here: Raising Securely Attached Kids by Eli Harwood Related Episodes:  380: Principle #5 // Sanctify Your Soul-Care [Back-to-School Series] 279: Navigating Parenting Triggers // Nat Vikitsreth 340: How to Be a Safe Place for your Sweetheart// Eli Harwood Episode sponsors: MollysSuds: Pick up Molly’s Suds on your next Target run or order through my exclusive URL to get 20% off all Molly Suds products. ***

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Podcast Episodes
483: Types of Support that Every Mom Needs [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 31:34
I've spent a lot of time thinking about what the word "self-assured" actually means in the context of motherhood. And I think somewhere along the way, a lot of us accidentally absorbed this idea that being self-assured m…
482: It's Never Too Late for a Fresh Start // Wendy Snyder [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 33:08
If you've ever worried that you've messed up your relationship with your kids — whether it happened this morning or years ago — this episode is going to bring you a lot of comfort. This week's guest is Wendy Snyder, foun…
481: What to Do When Your Child Says "I'm Fat" // Steph Wood [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 38:03
Last week, Dr. Lexie Kite gave us tools for our own body image resilience. But there's a particular kind of helplessness that comes from watching your child struggle with theirs. It can be heartbreaking to hear them say…
479: Teaching Kids Life Skills This Summer // Katie Kimball [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 37:41
My kids are 11 and 14, and I will be the first to tell you that teaching them practical life skills is not my strongest suit. I am genuinely good at the emotional work, the hard conversations, the staying connected throu…
478: What Every Mom of a Teenager Needs to Hear // Emily Ricks [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 35:56
There comes a point in parenting where you realize the approach that worked when your kids were little just doesn't work anymore. The rules, the structure, the ability to redirect and reset — it all starts to feel like i…