387: Why Calming Yourself Helps Calm Your Child // Eli Harwood

387: Why Calming Yourself Helps Calm Your Child // Eli Harwood

Author: Cloud10 September 5, 2024 Duration: 17:39
This bonus excerpt is one I pulled from Eli's full episode that dropped earlier this week. (If you haven't had a chance to listen, I highly recommend it. It's one of the most value-packed conversations I've had on 3 in 30!) Because it was so value-packed, we had to trim it to 30 minutes, and I didn't want you to miss out on this fascinating part of the conversation, so I decided to make it a bonus episode. These thoughts from Eli on co-regulation for parents blew my mind!   I mean, I had heard of co-regulation before, but the scientific evidence behind it is fascinating! I had no idea there were nerve fibers that are activated when I caress my child, and these nerve fibers calm my child's heart down! It takes the old adage "If Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy" to a whole new level. 🤯  Eli's explanation of the science behind co-regulation helps me understand why it is so vital that moms proactively do soul-care. It literally helps us build a buffer so that we don't dysregulate when our kids are dysregulated. It's so powerful!  (By the way, I just did a mini episode on soul-care! Click below to check it out!) Taking care of ourselves helps us avoid losing our tempers and doing and saying things we regret.  If you want to explore managing your anger so it doesn't negatively impact your children's sense of connection to you, be sure to attend my live online masterclasses over these next two weeks on how to "reroute your mom rage." Click below to sign up! *** Announcements: Sign up for my FREE masterclass to learn all about rerouting your mom rage! Purchase Eli's Book here: Raising Securely Attached Kids by Eli Harwood Related Episodes:  380: Principle #5 // Sanctify Your Soul-Care [Back-to-School Series] 279: Navigating Parenting Triggers // Nat Vikitsreth 340: How to Be a Safe Place for your Sweetheart// Eli Harwood Episode sponsors: MollysSuds: Pick up Molly’s Suds on your next Target run or order through my exclusive URL to get 20% off all Molly Suds products. ***

Motherhood often feels like a constant juggling act, leaving little time for lengthy advice or complicated strategies. That’s the exact gap that 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms fills. Each episode is built on a simple, powerful premise: delivering three practical, doable takeaways within a half-hour. Host Rachel Nielson, who brings her perspective as a mother, teacher, and writer, understands that a busy parent’s brain is already full. She curates conversations and shares insights that cut straight to what’s useful, focusing on real-world application over theory. You’ll hear discussions rooted in the daily realities of family life, covering everything from educational activities for kids and navigating family dynamics to personal well-being amidst the beautiful chaos. This isn’t about adding more to your to-do list, but about finding smarter, more peaceful ways to manage what’s already there. The tone is consistently encouraging, aiming to replace overwhelm with a sense of capability and even magic. Tuning into this podcast feels like a coffee chat with a knowledgeable friend who leaves you with clear, actionable steps-not just more noise. It’s a resource for any mom looking to gather concrete ideas for parenting, personal growth, and creating a more harmonious home, all within the span of a daily commute or a folded laundry pile.
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Podcast Episodes
447: What Parents in Disney Movies Got Wrong [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 37:52
Have you ever noticed that some of the parents in Disney movies…aren’t exactly the best role models? They love their kids deeply, but their fears, expectations, and blind spots often get in the way of connection. As I re…
446: Is Perfectionism Good or Bad? // Katherine Morgan Schafler [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 37:19
Have you ever been told that your perfectionism is a problem? Maybe you’ve felt like it’s the reason you’re stressed, restless, or never satisfied with yourself. But what if perfectionism isn’t actually the enemy? What i…
444: The Four Tendencies in Motherhood // Sarah Joslin [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 39:39
Have you ever wondered why it’s so hard to stick to goals that matter to you, but you can follow through easily when someone else is counting on you? Or why one of your children seems to resist every rule, while another…
443: Feeding Your Family without Losing Your Mind // Celeste Noland [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 34:15
As school routines settle back in, many moms start looking for a better rhythm with meals—something that feels less chaotic and more doable. But for many moms (myself included), feeding a family brings up more stress tha…
441: The 4 Types of Self-Care Every Mom Needs // Mia Hemstad [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 41:25
We talk a lot about self-care as moms, but most of the time, the examples we’re given (bubble baths, massages, solo Target runs) only scratch the surface. The truth is, there’s not one kind of self-care. There are actual…
440: Tools for Parenting a "Spicy" Child // Mary Van Geffen [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 36:03
Oh, the stories I could tell about raising a strong-willed child. But the truth is, if you have a spicy one of your own, you don’t need to hear my stories because you’ve got plenty of your own! Parenting an intense, pers…
439: 3 Secrets for Calmer, Happier Kids // Ralphie Jacobs [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 35:49
Ever found yourself stuck in a cycle of constant correction, nagging, lecturing, or repeating yourself while your kids seem to tune you out? It happens to almost every parent at some point. In the moment, it can feel lik…