465: When Your Spicy Child Takes All Your Energy (And What That Means for Their Siblings) // Mary Van Geffen

465: When Your Spicy Child Takes All Your Energy (And What That Means for Their Siblings) // Mary Van Geffen

Author: Cloud10 January 26, 2026 Duration: 43:07
If you have a strong-willed child, you know how much energy they require—and if you have other kids too, you've probably wondered what this dynamic is doing to their siblings. Are they getting lost in the shuffle? Will they resent their brother or sister? Will they resent you? Many parents worry that their quieter child is fading into the background while the spicy one commands all the attention. And even though you're doing your best, it's hard to know how to protect all your kids when one requires so much more support. In this week's episode, I talked with Mary Van Geffen, author of the brand new book Parenting A Spicy One: Raising a Strong-Willed Child Without Breaking Their Spirit or Yours. Mary brings both personal experience as a former spicy child herself and professional expertise as a parenting educator, and she teaches us how to navigate sibling relationships in a way that protects everyone—including the child you might not realize needs protecting. In this episode, you'll learn: 🌶️ Why your "easy" child might be protecting you from their own needs (and what that quietly costs them as they grow up) 🌶️ What your spicy child secretly believes about themselves and their "perfect" sibling—and how it's hurting them both 🌶️ The Home Alone truth about strong-willed kids that changes everything (yes, Kevin McCallister is a spicy one, and we can learn from him) Whether you have a spicy child or not, this conversation will shift how you think about sibling conflict and what it actually takes to protect the relationships between your kids. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: If you're raising a spicy child and want help finding the joy in those big personalities, the Flecks of Gold Journal helps you notice and celebrate what's going right—even on the hard days. Use code 3in30 for 10% off! Related Episodes: 440: How to Parent Strong-Willed Children Without Breaking Their Spirit // Mary Van Geffen 452: You Yelled... Now What? How to Repair and Reconnect // Devon Kuntzman 332: How to Delight in Your Difficult Child Episode Sponsors: Boll & Branch: Get 15% off your first set of sheets plus free shipping at BollAndBranch.com/3IN30. Laundry Sauce: For a limited time only, my listeners get 20% off your entire order when you use code 3in30 at LaundrySauce.com. Skylight Calendar: Right now, Skylight is offering our listeners $30 off their 15-inch calendars by going to MySkylight.com/TAKEAWAYS. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

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427: A Simple Framework for a "Balanced" Summer // Jenny Layton [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 38:18
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425: When PARENTING Doesn't Turn Out As Planned // Michelle Barrow [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 40:35
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424: When LIFE Doesn't Turn Out As Planned // Jessica N. Turner [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 37:49
When you were younger, did you imagine your life turning out a certain way? Maybe you thought you’d have a house full of children, a forever kind of love, or a career that lit you up. But what happens when the reality of…
422: How to Become a Supercommunicator // Charles Duhigg [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 36:46
Have you ever asked your kids about their day, only to get one-word answers in return? Or sat across from your spouse on a long-awaited date night and struggled to find something meaningful to talk about? Communication c…
421: Feeling Overwhelmed by Housework? You’re Not Alone. // KC Davis [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 39:30
If you’ve ever looked around at a sink full of dishes or a pile of unfolded laundry and felt like you were drowning, you’re in good company. I know that feeling well. As a recovering perfectionist and all-or-nothing thin…
420: How to Best Support a Neurodivergent Child // Kim Gameroz [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 39:43
Are you raising a neurodivergent child? If so, you know the journey can often feel isolating, exhausting, and uncertain. How can you teach them the essential skills they need? How do you build a strong relationship with…