476: How to Deal with Your Stuff So Your Kids Don't Have To // Eli Harwood

476: How to Deal with Your Stuff So Your Kids Don't Have To // Eli Harwood

Author: Cloud10 April 13, 2026 Duration: 35:54
There is a specific kind of worry that lives in the back of most mothers' minds —the worry that we're not doing it right. That somewhere in the gap between who we are and who we wish we were, our kids are absorbing something we never meant to give them: our unresolved stuff. Our triggers, our patterns, the things from our own childhoods that we're still working through. Is all of that making its way to our children? The uncomfortable truth is that some of it will. That's just the reality of being parented by a human. But what Eli Harwood taught me in this conversation is that parenthood itself is a developmental stage, which means we are not finished, and the work we do on ourselves is one of the most profound gifts we can give our children. This week's guest is Eli Harwood, licensed therapist, author, and creator of Attachment Nerd.In this conversation, Eli shares why doing the deep inner work of understanding your own emotional world isn't just good for you — it's the foundation of everything your kids actually need from you. In this episode, you'll hear Eli share: 💜 Why she built an asterisk right into her book title (you'll love her reasoning!) 💜 What it means when she says our kids can't rely on us for needs we haven't learned to meet in ourselves 💜 What she said to her child after being barky and short at the end of a long day If you have ever looked at your kids and felt that specific worry that you might be getting this wrong, I think you're going to find my conversation with Eli both honest and deeply freeing. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Related Episodes: 415: How to Get Help for Mental Illness // Sarah McKenna 458: Three Simple Phrases Your Kids Need to Hear from You // Eli Harwood 387: Why Calming Yourself Helps Calm Your Child // Eli Harwood, MA, LPC Episode Sponsors: Knix Teen: Go to knixteen.com and use code 3IN30 for 15 percent off. Shopify: Start your business today with the industry's best business partner, Shopify, and start hearing ✦[CHA CHING]✦ Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at shopify.com/3in30. AirDoctor: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code 3IN30 to get up to $300 off today! Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my lifeF ind Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

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