48. Sex FAQs - How Do I Build My Sexual Confidence?

48. Sex FAQs - How Do I Build My Sexual Confidence?

Author: Sara Tang, Sexologist & Coach May 15, 2022 Duration: 40:33

What helps you build sexual confidence? Sex is a vulnerable act, and fear and self-doubt can often arise in situations where things don't go according to our expectations.   On this thoughtful FAQ episode, Sara and relationship coach, Valentina Tudose from Happy Ever After (https://happyeverafter.asia/) answer your most pressing questions around building sexual confidence. Topics on this episode include:  

  1. How do I feel sexy in my body after a double mastectomy for breast cancer?
  2. How can I stop being anxious about my small penis size?
  3. I've noticed a pattern in my relationships that sex with my partner usually stops after 1-2 months of dating. How can I overcome feeling undesirable?
  4. I suffer from vaginismus and have low sexual confidence. How can I stop worrying that my partner isn't getting the intimacy he craves?
  5. How can I be more confident around initiating sex?

 

Throughout the episode, we offer countless tips on how to make the shift from performative sex to pleasurable sex. Anyone can be sexually confident, but it does take practice, care and patience.

 

At its core, sexual confidence is about feeling comfortable in your body, knowing you deserve pleasure and being able to articulate what you enjoy.

 

Learning to accept and be grateful for our bodies as "good bodies" can make a huge impact on our perception of any sexual situation, and help to boost our sexual confidence.

 

Identifying our desires (and fears) and then discussing them openly with our partners can also help to prevent our negative self-talk from taking over in the moment.

 

Sex is as much of a mental activity, as a physical activity. So start building your sexual confidence by tuning into this episode!


 

 

 

 


Ever wondered what happens when you take the awkwardness out of talking about sex and replace it with genuine curiosity and a bit of humor? That’s the space Better in Bed | A Sex & Sexuality Podcast with Sarasense occupies each week. Hosted by sexologist and coach Sara Tang, these conversations feel more like insightful chats with a knowledgeable friend than a clinical lecture. The podcast moves freely across topics tied to health, culture, and our personal relationships, reflecting the many ways sexuality touches our lives. You’ll hear honest discussions that demystify desires, tackle societal taboos, and explore the practical aspects of intimacy, all with a refreshingly light touch. It’s not about prescribing one right way; it’s about creating a comfortable environment for exploration and self-discovery. Whether the subject is fitness, communication, or cultural norms, Sara’s approach normalizes asking questions we often keep to ourselves. Tuning into this podcast means joining a dialogue that prioritizes understanding over judgment, and playfulness over pressure. The result is a collection of episodes that genuinely aim to make conversations about sex-and the experiences themselves-feel more accessible and significantly less intimidating for everyone involved.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 58

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