How Shame Spirals Hurt You & Your Relationships

How Shame Spirals Hurt You & Your Relationships

Author: Evie Mpras, MS, LMFT June 23, 2025 Duration: 17:45

Being hard on yourself and getting into shame spirals is an all-too-familiar state in Moms & parents. Not only is it harmful to us, but it's also harmful to our relationships.

I'm Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Evie Mpras specializing in relationship health in early parenthood.

In this episode I share:

  • Why shame spirals are so common when we become parents
  • How shame is an avoidance of your authentic feelings
  • How shame spirals make it harder to show up for ourselves, our partners, and our kids.
  • 4 actionable tips to start interrupting these shame spirals and connect with your loved ones

Giving grace makes it easier to stay accountable to yourself and others. Let this episode help open up another way of relating that isn't so harsh.

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*This Podcast is not an alternative for mental health assistance and/or counseling with a licensed professional. For any specific medical questions about your condition and/or concerns, please contact your healthcare provider. This Podcast should not be considered mental health advice, rather for the sole purpose of information and education.*


There's a quiet shift that happens after a baby arrives, where the focus understandably turns to the newborn, yet the foundation of the family-the partnership-often strains under new pressures. Bonds after Baby: Rebuild your marriage, reduce postpartum resentment & guard maternal mental health speaks directly into that space. Hosted by Evie Mpras, a licensed marriage and family therapist, this podcast is a resource for parents who find themselves navigating unexpected conflict and a sense of disconnection even as they manage all the practical preparations. It’s for those who sometimes feel resentment, isolation, or a fading spark, and who long to reclaim a sense of teamwork and intimacy. Each episode offers grounded, professional insights from Evie’s practice, focusing on actionable communication strategies, managing mental load, and fostering emotional safety. You’ll hear discussions on repairing ruptures, dividing unseen labor, and protecting maternal well-being as a cornerstone for the whole family. This isn’t about adding more to your to-do list; it’s about transforming the quality of your connection from the inside out, turning postpartum challenges into a pathway for a stronger, more resilient partnership. Tune in for honest conversations that help you guard your mental health and rebuild the bond that started it all.
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Bonds after Baby: Rebuild your marriage, reduce postpartum resentment & guard maternal mental health
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