537: Stop Trying to Get it Right!

537: Stop Trying to Get it Right!

Author: Cloud10 March 27, 2026 Duration: 33:02
Welcome Brave Lovers! In today's episode Laurie and George delve into the withdrawer's world and how their mission to get it right is so wrong. Inspired by a recent post from podcaster Steven Bartlett, they discuss the unrealistic expectations and pressure many withdrawers impose and the vicious avoidance cycle they get caught in when they can't meet those expectations. If you identify as a withdrawer in your negative cycle or you want more insight on your withdrawing partner this episode will teach you: what is happening and steps to take to break this habit. You'll learn how to set realistic expectations, reduce pressure and communicate clearly with your partner. It takes less than 10 minutes a day to create a better relationship! Take a page from our role play and address this in your relationship for a more secure connection. Our book Brave Love, Great Sex is now available for pre-order on Amazon. Secure your copy today!  Support this episode's sponsor (and help the pod!): Uberlube.com -- Laurie's long-time favorite personal lubricant! Use the code BraveLove for a discount! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In a world where conversations about intimacy often get reduced to cliches or awkward silence, Brave Love Great Sex-Couples Therapy Podcast offers a different space. Hosted by certified sex therapist Dr. Laurie Watson and renowned couples therapist George Faller, LMFT, this is a dialogue that goes beyond simple advice. Each episode is built on a foundation of professional expertise and compassionate honesty, tackling the real, sometimes messy, intersections of emotional connection and physical desire. You'll hear frank discussions that demystify therapy, explore relationship dynamics, and address the challenges and joys of maintaining a vibrant, erotic bond within a committed partnership. The conversations are designed to be both fascinating and practical, moving from broader concepts of love and trust to specific discussions about sexual intimacy and technique. This isn't about quick fixes; it's about providing hope and actionable insights for couples who want to deepen their understanding of each other. By listening to this podcast, you gain access to a rare combination of perspectives, where a focus on sexual health and a focus on relational fitness come together. It’s for anyone in a long-term relationship seeking to nurture both the brave love and the great sex that can sustain it for the long haul.
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535: I Never Want to Have Sex Again [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 35:32
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Duration: 32:04
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534: The Unconscious Life of Sexuality [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 43:00
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Foreplay Replay - Dirty Talk [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 30:16
Warning this episode is NSFW and you might want to sit down for this one! Is dirty talk part of your love making repertoire? Dirty talk is defined as talking explicitly about sex with your partner. These explicit words r…
533: Healing The Political Divide in Couples [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 40:30
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Duration: 29:29
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532: The Shadow Cycle [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 30:10
In today's episode we are exploring the shadow cycle; how our partner's experience often mirrors ours in a different cycle. Join hosts Laurie and George as they walk listeners through the five steps to explore and unders…
Foreplay Replay - Alcohol -- Gas Pedal or Brake? [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 31:14
"Sometimes popping two gummies on vacation helps us have really great sex!" "I really need that glass of wine to get me in the mood!" "Smelling alcohol on your breath is such a turnoff!" As couples and sex therapists, we…
531: Want Better Sex? Be a Better Caregiver [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 33:13
In today's episode, Laurie and George discuss how improving caretaking in your relationship can lead to better sex. If you've felt bogged down by the mental load or have heard your partner make complaints about it this i…