Episode 221 - W.A.I.T. What Am I Thinking?

Episode 221 - W.A.I.T. What Am I Thinking?

Author: JoAnn Fox: Buddhist Teacher October 25, 2025 Duration: 45:41

Delusions are distorted ways of looking at things that make our mind unpeaceful and uncontrolled. Anger exaggerates someone's faults. Attachment exaggerates someone's good qualities. Both lead us away from reality and keep us trapped in craving or aversion.

Buddha taught that what fuels delusions is inappropriate attention. When we dwell on thoughts that feed our delusions, we are engaging in "inappropriate attention."

The way all delusions arise:

Object + inappropriate attention = Delusion

With anger, inappropriate attention might look like replaying an insult, focusing only on someone's faults, or exaggerating how much they've harmed us. Each time we dwell on these thoughts, our anger grows stronger.

Appropriate attention brings peace. We might notice the impermanence of the situation, remember the person's good qualities, or recognize that anger hurts us more than it hurts anyone else. This kind of attention dissolves anger's grip.

The same process that fuels anger also feeds jealousy and attachment. When we compare ourselves to others or fixate on what we lack, jealousy arises. When we focus on only the pleasurable or ideal aspects of someone or something, attachment takes root. Both are forms of clinging to illusions.

We can train our minds to shift this attention. When you notice your train of thought is leading to the darkside--inappropriate attention-- you can say to yourself:

"W.A.I.T. What am I thinking?"

Are these thoughts leading me to peace or away from peace? How can I redirect my thoughts? This simple shift of attention offers profound freedom. By learning to direct our attention wisely, we begin to choose peace over pain, compassion over comparison, and clarity over illusion.

All experience is preceded by mind, 

Led by mind, 

Made by mind. 

Speak or act with a corrupted mind, 

And suffering follows 

As the wagon wheel follows the hoof of the ox. 

 

All experience is preceded by mind, 

Led by mind, 

Made by mind. 

Speak or act with a peaceful mind,

And happiness follows 

Like a never-departing shadow. 

--Buddha, The Dhammapada, Verse 1 - 2

References and Links

Buddha.The Dhammapada. Translated by Gil Fronsdale. (Kindle). Shambala, Boston and London, 2011.

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