The Truth About ‘Vibes’ Dating: Why Men Think Basic Questions Are ‘Too Much’

The Truth About ‘Vibes’ Dating: Why Men Think Basic Questions Are ‘Too Much’

Author: Kiki Said So & Medinah Monroe December 11, 2025 Duration: 1:05:03
CockTales: Dirty Discussions
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This week, we’re talking about vibes — the good ones, the delusional ones, and the ones men swear should replace actual communication. After mixing up our refreshing pH Balance Cocktail, we dig into Medina’s viral moment about dating communication and the wild comments from men who think asking, “What podcasts do you listen to?” is somehow “too much.”

We also get into:• A listener’s essential-oil disaster (peppermint should NOT go everywhere)
• Why communication is not “being nosy”
• New men in elevators & unexpected meet-cutes
• Cat-mama initiation tips from Black women with cats
• Atlanta life updates, Friendsgiving stories & deconstructed pies
• What dating looks like when you’re grown, busy, and intentional

🍸 pH BALANCE COCKTAIL
2 oz vodka
1 oz fresh lemon juice
0.75 oz honey syrup or simple syrup
Splash of cranberry juice
2–3 cucumber slices
Club soda to top
Garnish: cucumber wheel or lemon twist

How to make it:

Muddle the cucumber gently in a shaker. Add vodka, lemon juice, and honey. Shake. Strain over ice in a tall glass, add a splash of cranberry, top with club soda, and garnish. Announcements and promos are at the end — don’t miss them!

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Grab a drink and get comfortable. CockTales: Dirty Discussions is that unfiltered conversation happening in the corner of your favorite bar, hosted by friends Kiki Said So and Medinah Monroe. With one navigating single life and the other rooted in a long-term relationship, their perspectives clash and complement in the most honest ways. This isn't a clinical advice show; it's a raw, comedic, and deeply personal journal of what modern dating, sex, and relationships actually feel like on the ground, specifically through the lens of life in Atlanta. Each episode feels like you’re pulling up a chair to their table as they dissect their latest encounters, frustrations, and triumphs with zero censorship. The laughter is genuine, the stories are real, and the discussions go to places most are too polite to mention. You’ll find this podcast lives in the messy, human intersection of society, culture, and personal revelation, all served with a hefty side of comedy. Tune in for the kind of candid talk that makes you nod in recognition, laugh out loud, and maybe even rethink your own approach to the complicated sea of love and connection.
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