Before You Die: What a Hospice Doctor Knows About Regret, Reinvention, and Waking Up Now

Before You Die: What a Hospice Doctor Knows About Regret, Reinvention, and Waking Up Now

Author: AJ Jones, Founder, MORE® — Aligned Reinvention Guide July 6, 2026 Duration: 44:56
In this episode of Code 3: Life. Reinvented., I reconnect with Dr. Luyi Kathy Zhang, a palliative care and hospice physician, TEDx speaker, coach, and host of The Purpose Filter podcast. Kathy has spent years sitting with people at the end of life, and what she has learned is both sobering and strangely hopeful: most people are not afraid of dying as much as they are haunted by the life they postponed. We talk about her own near-death experience at 13, the emotional toll of practicing palliative care in New York City during COVID, and how that breaking point became a catalyst for her own reinvention. Together, we explore why our brains keep us stuck on autopilot, why failure feels immediate while regret feels distant, and how small, intentional “daily doses” of courage can help us change before crisis forces the choice. Kathy also shares what she calls the ABCs of deathbed regrets: authenticity, bravery, and connection. This conversation is a powerful reminder that life is not just short. It is unpredictable. And the work is not to wait for the wake-up call, but to take one tiny step toward the life you already know you want to live. To find Kathy, please check out: Her website On Instagram @drluyikathyzhang Her TEDx talk To learn about MORE, please go to bemorealigned.com.

AJ Jones has a story that gets your attention, but it's not where his story ends. Surviving two widowmaker heart attacks after a high-powered finance career at places like Schwab and BlackRock led to a doctor's order to retire. He chose a different path. Now, as the founder of MORE®, he acts as an Aligned Reinvention Guide, and this Code 3: Life. Reinvented. podcast is the conversation that follows from that choice. It’s born from the urgent realization that sometimes you have to tear up the old blueprint completely. Here, we move past simple motivational talk into the tangible, sometimes messy work of building a life and career that truly fits who you are. You’ll hear from AJ and a range of guests who have navigated their own pivots, discussing the practical strategies and mindset shifts needed to step off autopilot. The discussions naturally weave through business, career development, education, and personal growth, because reinvention doesn’t respect neat categories. Tuning into this podcast means listening in on honest dialogues about risk, purpose, and crafting a definition of success that has personal meaning. It’s for anyone feeling the nagging sense that there’s a more aligned version of their professional journey or daily life waiting to be built, and who wants to hear how others have started that construction.
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