344: 3 dating myths to let go of immediately (ft. Jason Lange)

344: 3 dating myths to let go of immediately (ft. Jason Lange)

Author: Melanie Curtin January 17, 2025 Duration: 47:56

Are you gettin' out onto the dating scene in 2025? Whether you're newly single, a refugee from the world of pickup, recently divorced, or you've been dating for a while now, there are a few myths we see as obsolete that we wanted to bust.

Sex, dating, and relationships can be confusing territory, and there are a lot of dos and don'ts when it comes to dating in the modern world. This is especially true in a post-#MeToo culture, where a lot of men have deep-seated concerns around coming off as creepy.

If you've ever wondered whether it's "right" to text her right away (will you come off as thirsty if you text too soon?), whether you need to hide your nervousness (hint: you don't), or how to ask her out respectfully, listen on.

If you're looking for pickup artist nonsense, you won't get it here. But if you're seeking attuned, loving dating advice for men from people who deeply care about men, women, and all human beings -- and staying openhearted -- then you're in the right spot.

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Mentioned on this episode:

  • Dear Men 138: GirlTalk: When to text her vs. call her!
  • Dear Men 274: How do you make sure you're not coming across as creepy?
  • Dear Men 296: What does it actually mean to step into your power?
  • Dear Men 332: Ever gone into freeze? Here’s what’s actually going on

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

  • "I don’t want to ever make anyone else feel uncomfortable, so I want them to initiate and drive."
  • "There’s a belief that I need to hide my attraction or first establish a friendly relationship."
  • "It’s another type of pressure men carry about a certain way they have to be in order to be seen as worthy."
  • "Seven years into your marriage you’re still going to have to share something that’s scary."

Melanie Curtin hosts Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women, a space where curiosity meets practical change. This isn't about memorizing pick-up lines or playing games; it's built on the idea that genuine personal growth is the most attractive quality a man can develop. The conversations here move beyond surface-level tips to explore the deeper dynamics of connection, drawing from insights across health, culture, and psychology. You'll hear from women who offer a candid look into what fosters real attraction and lasting partnership, providing a valuable perspective often missing from mainstream advice. Each episode tackles the honest questions and challenges men face, whether navigating early dating, deepening intimacy, or building a resilient marriage. The focus is always on actionable understanding-how to listen, communicate, and show up in ways that are both authentic and effective. Tune in for a podcast that respects your intelligence and meets you where you are, offering a blend of straightforward talk and nuanced discussion that can reshape how you approach every aspect of your life with women. It's for any man ready to move past confusion and toward more meaningful, fulfilling connections.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

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