351: Men love to be nurtured, too (pt. 2) (ft. Scott Kaltenbaugh)

351: Men love to be nurtured, too (pt. 2) (ft. Scott Kaltenbaugh)

Author: Melanie Curtin March 7, 2025 Duration: 1:16:11

Ever feel like you need to be tough in order to be seen as "masculine" enough? Ever feel like you wish you could just let your guard down and be taken care of?

The truth is, it is a deep human need to be nurtured in relationship. It's neither masculine nor feminine, and we need to expand our awareness of and perception of love, relationship, and what it means to be taken care of, whether we're dating or in a committed long-term relationship.

Men need to feel safe, desired, and received just as much as women do. The shape that takes might differ, but the underlying need remains the same.

Here we delve into the wonderful world of feeling nurtured. I share personal stories from men in our community of moments when they've felt deeply nurtured by their women partners, as well as what nurturing means to them.

In love and even in sex, some of the most memorable moments are not those in which we feel red-hot desire, but when we feel the sweetness of connection.

This is part two of a two-part series on nurturing. For those who want to listen to both, the first is episode 343.

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

  • "I feel nurtured when I am told I am fully seen, trusted, and loved for all that I am as I am."
  • "The bravery to feel worthy."
  • "We relate to men through roughness, and women through sex."
  • "You can’t meet me where I’m at if you don’t see me."
  • "The patriarchy says: 'I’ve got to do it by myself and without complaining and tough it out no matter what.'"
  • "We have to take the mask off for somebody."

Melanie Curtin hosts Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women, a space where curiosity meets practical change. This isn't about memorizing pick-up lines or playing games; it's built on the idea that genuine personal growth is the most attractive quality a man can develop. The conversations here move beyond surface-level tips to explore the deeper dynamics of connection, drawing from insights across health, culture, and psychology. You'll hear from women who offer a candid look into what fosters real attraction and lasting partnership, providing a valuable perspective often missing from mainstream advice. Each episode tackles the honest questions and challenges men face, whether navigating early dating, deepening intimacy, or building a resilient marriage. The focus is always on actionable understanding-how to listen, communicate, and show up in ways that are both authentic and effective. Tune in for a podcast that respects your intelligence and meets you where you are, offering a blend of straightforward talk and nuanced discussion that can reshape how you approach every aspect of your life with women. It's for any man ready to move past confusion and toward more meaningful, fulfilling connections.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

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