357: GirlTalk: What does it mean to “claim” her (and why does she love it)?

357: GirlTalk: What does it mean to “claim” her (and why does she love it)?

Author: Melanie Curtin April 18, 2025 Duration: 1:11:39

Want to generate sexual heat, and also inspire safety and a sense of belonging in your partner? Learn how to claim her!

We've talked about claiming before on the podcast, especially with respect to building polarity. When a man is on the more passive side, it can feel lackluster and also confusing. As one woman put it, "Do you even want me?" This throws off polarity.

When he knows how to take inspired action and lead by claiming us, we want to see him more! We feel the polarity. And because of that we feel more relaxed, uplifted, and yes, you guessed it: turned on!

Here we delve more into what it means to us to feel claimed in sex, dating, and relationships -- and why we adore it.

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Memorable quotes from the episode:

  • "Claiming is NOT controlling."
  • "I felt like ‘no’ was not an acceptable answer." 
  • "You get the Friday 4pm text: ‘What are you up to tonight?’"
  • “He came towards me with a smile.”
  • “That was really great. I would love to take you to dinner sometime next week. When are you free?”
  • “I want you next to me. I don’t want to sleep alone tonight.”
  • “This is in service of our relationship and our love and our connection.”
  • “You don’t have to carry the burden for every asshole.”
  • “The experiences you want to have with women are just a claim away!”

Melanie Curtin hosts Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women, a space where curiosity meets practical change. This isn't about memorizing pick-up lines or playing games; it's built on the idea that genuine personal growth is the most attractive quality a man can develop. The conversations here move beyond surface-level tips to explore the deeper dynamics of connection, drawing from insights across health, culture, and psychology. You'll hear from women who offer a candid look into what fosters real attraction and lasting partnership, providing a valuable perspective often missing from mainstream advice. Each episode tackles the honest questions and challenges men face, whether navigating early dating, deepening intimacy, or building a resilient marriage. The focus is always on actionable understanding-how to listen, communicate, and show up in ways that are both authentic and effective. Tune in for a podcast that respects your intelligence and meets you where you are, offering a blend of straightforward talk and nuanced discussion that can reshape how you approach every aspect of your life with women. It's for any man ready to move past confusion and toward more meaningful, fulfilling connections.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

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