372: Are you scared of women? (ft. Jason Lange)

If you've ever been scared of approaching a woman because you might make her uncomfortable; frightened about what a woman might ask of you; or worried about "getting in trouble" with your women partner, I have news for you: You're a normal man.

That said, there are also some underlying patterns that may need addressing, particularly if this is a recurring pattern that's preventing you from even getting started dating, or holding you back from what you really want: A loving, healthy, life-expanding romantic partnership.

Here we delve into the most common ways we've seen men be afraid of women -- and what to do about it.

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

• “Girls were different creatures that I didn’t understand.”
• “If I put myself out there, what if she doesn’t like me?”
• “For Nice Guys, our self-worth is tied up her opinion of me.”
• “Someone would touch me and I would startle, like my body was braced.”
• “I get a sense that something is happening but I don’t know how to talk about it.”
• “Am I now blowing it because I should be touching her right now, but I’m not?”
• “Connection in and of itself is soothing.”
• 00:34:05 Melanie Curtin: “My family didn’t know how to soothe. I had to learn how to self-soothe.”
• “It’s hard for us to relax as young boys if mom is wound up all the time.”
• “All I do is hear mom talk about how awful dad and men are.”
• “There’s a way you need to be in order to receive love.”
• “I have to rescue my mom.”
• “If we’re in fear of her (or her state), it’s hard for her to trust us.”