360: GirlTalk: Striking while the iron is hot!

360: GirlTalk: Striking while the iron is hot!

Author: Melanie Curtin May 9, 2025 Duration: 1:32:22

Want to be even sexier to women than you are now? ;) Learn to strike while the iron is hot!

Seriously though -- striking while the iron is hot makes you a man who can generate polarity, build trust, and have women want to surrender to you. Knowing how and when to take action is very sexy ... and passivity, not so much. And all of these principles apply whether you're in a dating relationship or you've been married for decades.

Here we go through examples of men who've done this well in dating, relationships, and yes, definitely in sex! And we talk about times that we as women have felt confused, rejected, or both -- as well as times we felt lit up, radiant, desired, and HOT for the men in our lives!

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

  • “Sure, I’m not happy, but at least I know my non-happiness.”
  • “Relationships are a skill.”
  • “I always felt his desire for me and I always knew where I stood and how he felt”
  • "Panty Droppers: 'I’m on it,' 'I’ve got it,' 'I’ll take care of it now.'"
  • “My inner turmoil is more important than your needs.”
  • “I was saying, ‘I need more sex or this relationship won’t be successful.’”
  • “He wasn’t willing to do the hard work — the work to really look at his trauma."
  • "It’s deeply masculine to seek the right counsel.”

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Mentioned on this episode:

  • DM episode 332: Have you ever gone into freeze? Here's what's actually going on

Melanie Curtin hosts Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women, a space where curiosity meets practical change. This isn't about memorizing pick-up lines or playing games; it's built on the idea that genuine personal growth is the most attractive quality a man can develop. The conversations here move beyond surface-level tips to explore the deeper dynamics of connection, drawing from insights across health, culture, and psychology. You'll hear from women who offer a candid look into what fosters real attraction and lasting partnership, providing a valuable perspective often missing from mainstream advice. Each episode tackles the honest questions and challenges men face, whether navigating early dating, deepening intimacy, or building a resilient marriage. The focus is always on actionable understanding-how to listen, communicate, and show up in ways that are both authentic and effective. Tune in for a podcast that respects your intelligence and meets you where you are, offering a blend of straightforward talk and nuanced discussion that can reshape how you approach every aspect of your life with women. It's for any man ready to move past confusion and toward more meaningful, fulfilling connections.
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