363: We women still need men. Just in a different way. (ft. Jason Lange)

363: We women still need men. Just in a different way. (ft. Jason Lange)

Author: Melanie Curtin May 30, 2025 Duration: 44:11

We all know the "rules" have changed when it comes to dating and relationships. There are few absolute in terms of how to relate to a dating or relationship partner, which begs questions like:

If not money, then what IS the modern man supposed to provide?

If you're a man, it may be hard to grasp what a woman truly craves from you. There's good news on this front, though: We women still need you! In fact, many would say we need healthy, passionate, masculine men now more than ever.

And there are two very specific things healthy, embodied women truly desire from men. Here we delve into those, and along the way touch on sexy time, how hot it is when a man has a strong backbone, and how to keep up with all the shifting dynamics going on when it comes to sex, love, and dating in the modern world.

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Mentioned on this episode:

  • Dear Men episode 262: Are you lonely?
  • Dear Men episode 215: Are you intimidated by her big emotions? Here's what to do.
  • Dear Men episode 329: How do you stay grounded when she’s upset or dysregulated?
  • Dear Men episode 305: GuyTalk: Overcoming religious programming
  • Dear men episode 327: Transforming shame into power

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

  •  "How do I win in this?"
  • "Can you provide me steadiness in a turbulent world?"
  • "We men are being asked to show up more — with more complexity."
  • "I just avoided conflict … deny, deflect, defend."
  • “If we don’t have a capacity to attune and be present with ourselves, we can’t do it with a partner."
  • "Emotional safety does not mean please and appease."
  • "There’s not a lot we as a couple can do about that until I’ve worked with my own shame."
  • "Women, more than ever, want to be polarized!"
  • "Most people want to know their partner wants to f*** them!"

Melanie Curtin hosts Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women, a space where curiosity meets practical change. This isn't about memorizing pick-up lines or playing games; it's built on the idea that genuine personal growth is the most attractive quality a man can develop. The conversations here move beyond surface-level tips to explore the deeper dynamics of connection, drawing from insights across health, culture, and psychology. You'll hear from women who offer a candid look into what fosters real attraction and lasting partnership, providing a valuable perspective often missing from mainstream advice. Each episode tackles the honest questions and challenges men face, whether navigating early dating, deepening intimacy, or building a resilient marriage. The focus is always on actionable understanding-how to listen, communicate, and show up in ways that are both authentic and effective. Tune in for a podcast that respects your intelligence and meets you where you are, offering a blend of straightforward talk and nuanced discussion that can reshape how you approach every aspect of your life with women. It's for any man ready to move past confusion and toward more meaningful, fulfilling connections.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women
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