366: Love can, in fact, be calculated. (ft. Zoey Charif)

366: Love can, in fact, be calculated. (ft. Zoey Charif)

Author: Melanie Curtin June 20, 2025 Duration: 1:00:05

Have you ever wished you could scientifically determine what’s wrong in your relationship? 

Or felt it would be helpful to somehow mathematically see how compatible you are with someone you’re dating? 

Or gone through a difficult period with a relationship partner and wished you could understand one another better? 

There’s a love tool that may be able to help. 

Zoey Charif went from getting a degree in Crimonology to writing about love and relationships — and in her love work, she brought to bear her curiosity about human behavior. 

The result? Her generating an instrument (like a personality test) that helps couples as well as singles grasp, another other things, compatibility. 

Perhaps the most interesting part is that Zoey herself has used it alongside her husband — to great effect in their marriage. 

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

  • “What causes betrayals?”
  • “We are driven by primal instincts.”
  • “I feel lucky to be with you.”
  • “No one wants to feel like, ‘I’m not doing well in my marriage.’”
  • “We both started to step up.”
  • “If you’re unhappy, your spouse is probably also unhappy.”
  • “Change takes time.”
  • “You are not put on this earth to be unfulfilled.”
  • “You can’t be doing the work for both of you.”

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Melanie Curtin hosts Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women, a space where curiosity meets practical change. This isn't about memorizing pick-up lines or playing games; it's built on the idea that genuine personal growth is the most attractive quality a man can develop. The conversations here move beyond surface-level tips to explore the deeper dynamics of connection, drawing from insights across health, culture, and psychology. You'll hear from women who offer a candid look into what fosters real attraction and lasting partnership, providing a valuable perspective often missing from mainstream advice. Each episode tackles the honest questions and challenges men face, whether navigating early dating, deepening intimacy, or building a resilient marriage. The focus is always on actionable understanding-how to listen, communicate, and show up in ways that are both authentic and effective. Tune in for a podcast that respects your intelligence and meets you where you are, offering a blend of straightforward talk and nuanced discussion that can reshape how you approach every aspect of your life with women. It's for any man ready to move past confusion and toward more meaningful, fulfilling connections.
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