389: 8 reasons why it's so hard for men to let go of relationships that aren't working (ft. Jason Lange)

Have you ever felt stuck in a love relationship that wasn't working? Maybe you were straining and striving to make it work. Maybe you felt like it was all on your shoulders -- all your responsibility to "fix" it. Or maybe you were afraid of what would happen if it went away. Would she make it? Would you?

There are concrete reasons why it's hard for men in particular to let go of romantic relationships (whether marriages or other long-term committed relationships) that are no longer fulfilling.

Here we delve into 8 specific reasons why it's hard for men to answer questions like:

• "Why do I feel so stuck in my marriage?"
• "How do I fix my marriage?"
• "What do I do if I'm unhappy but feel obligated to stay?"
• "What can I do to make my marriage better?"
• "How do I get my wife to want me again?"

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Mentioned on this episode:

• DM 377: How do you overcome the fear of being alone?
• DM 144: Are you staying together for the kids?
• My streaming sex course! Please Her In Bed: www.pleaseherinbed.com

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

• “Often relationships that are hard to get out of have some element of codependence.”
• “What happens if I leave her? How will she survive?”
• “What if I break up with her and she’s mad at me?”
• “If the relationship fails, I fail.”
• “Maybe this is the best I’m ever going to get, and if I leave it, I’ll regret it.”
• “There’s a type of safety there, and not having to confront the fear of being alone.”
• “It’s really about not excluding oneself.”
• “If I don’t believe I’m worth it, I’m not going to ask for it.”
• “Other men are dangerous so the only safe place is your feminine partner.”
• “A relationship doesn’t have to last forever to be successful!”
• “I was living on scraps before, and I didn’t even realize it.”
• “This would have been impossible for me to do without my men’s group.”
• “As you let go into community, you can discover yourself in a totally different way.”