A 2022 dating survey showed that a whopping 69% of American men say that fear of being labeled "creepy" impacts how they interact with women. And 44% said it diminishes how much they interact with women at all, romantically or otherwise.
In other words, the fear of being creepy can hold you back from all connection with women, not just in the realm of dating/relationships.
But let's talk about sex and dating for a moment. The cruel irony is that this kind of fear usually means you've got a good heart — but left unchecked, it can make you shrink, go invisible, and tuck your sexuality away entirely ... which kills polarity.
Here, Jason and I count down the top 3 ways to make sure you're NOT coming off as creepy. We get practical as well as emotional. I share the "library story" I still think about; Jason gets honest about the years he spent frozen and numb — and we get into why whoever is breathing more deeply in the room ... is holding alpha.
We also share the simple thing you can say out loud that turns an awkward, high-stakes context with a woman into one where she actually feels safe enough to say yes — including the exact line that helped one man ask out a longtime friend and land in the healthiest relationship either of them had ever had.
plus a breakthrough that took one client from scared-and-small to making out outside a restaurant with a woman he thought was "out of his league" — plus the married man who finally said six words to his wife he'd never dared say in their whole marriage, and how she responded.
Whether you've frozen, over-corrected, or held your fire because you were terrified of being "that guy" — single or married — this one's for you. You can move beyond creepy and reclaim this part of yourself ... and everyone benefits when you do.
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Memorable quotes from this episode:
- "'Men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women are afraid men will kill them.'"
- "There's an inverse relationship between safety and creepy."
- "Head evokes head, heart evokes heart, body evokes body."
- "And she said, 'It's not that I don't want that — it's not like this, right now.'"
- "The problem isn't always the context — it's whether you set a container and can speak to it."
- "There's nothing wrong with our sexuality. It's what we do with it."
- "Whether you say yes or no, I'm going to be okay."
- "'I find it really hot when you wear a short skirt and boots!'"
- "Shame is healed in community."
