425: How weird is sex gonna get in the age of AI? (ft. Susan Bratton)

425: How weird is sex gonna get in the age of AI? (ft. Susan Bratton)

Author: Melanie Curtin August 7, 2026 Duration: 1:12:09

"Is your dick going to be synced to porn?"

That's not hypothetical — it's already on the market. Here, intimacy expert Susan Bratton walks me through "weird" phenomena at the frontier of sex tech and AI, including synchronized strokers, tele-dildonics (I'll bet that's a word you've never come across before), role-player game (RPG) worlds where you can get down and dirty with an Aztec warrior woman, and adaptive AI that learns what gets you off and gives you more of it.

But where does this genuinely help? And where can it quietly wreck your dopamine system and/or real-world relationships? We delve into all of it, including the exact device suite that Susan and her boyfriend use for long-distance sex. Imagine being thousands of miles apart, still having synchronized orgasms on video. (I did not expect the "hard-boiled egg" comparison, but you'll get it once you hear it.)

Plus:

  • How a woman can regnerate her vaginal tissue (YES, this helps if she's dry after/during perimenopause/menopause)
  • The 96% statistic about what most porn is actually showing you
  • The ancient technique that separates orgasm from ejaculation
  • Why penis pumps are not the cheesy novelty you think they are


And a fundamental truth that Susan and I agree on: The best sex tech in the world means nothing without the communication skills underneath it. Plus what I consider the quote of the episode: "I want to live forever and fuck till I die!"

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Mentioned on this episode:

  • Please Her In Bed (Melanie's streaming course on how to talk about sex with women in a way that actually helps them to open up): www.pleaseherinbed.com
  • Drive Desire (Susan's full toy/device library): www.drivedesire.com

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

  • "No one's ever given her these types of strokes before."
  • "They don't want you addicted to the yoni. They want you addicted to the screens."
  • "Your dick is a tongue, not a piston."
  • "You don't owe me an ejaculation."
  • "How's your hoo-ha doing?"
  • "When you are a turned-on woman or a turned-on man, you're turned on to life."
  • "Your sexual vitality and your vitality are two sides of the same coin."

Melanie Curtin hosts Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women, a space where curiosity meets practical change. This isn't about memorizing pick-up lines or playing games; it's built on the idea that genuine personal growth is the most attractive quality a man can develop. The conversations here move beyond surface-level tips to explore the deeper dynamics of connection, drawing from insights across health, culture, and psychology. You'll hear from women who offer a candid look into what fosters real attraction and lasting partnership, providing a valuable perspective often missing from mainstream advice. Each episode tackles the honest questions and challenges men face, whether navigating early dating, deepening intimacy, or building a resilient marriage. The focus is always on actionable understanding-how to listen, communicate, and show up in ways that are both authentic and effective. Tune in for a podcast that respects your intelligence and meets you where you are, offering a blend of straightforward talk and nuanced discussion that can reshape how you approach every aspect of your life with women. It's for any man ready to move past confusion and toward more meaningful, fulfilling connections.
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