how to listen when you will never be able to fix it

how to listen when you will never be able to fix it

Author: Oscar Trimboli June 1, 2023 Duration: 47:45

Kathryn Mannix has spent her medical career working with people who have incurable advanced illnesses.

Starting in cancer care and changing career to become a pioneer of the new discipline of palliative medicine, she's worked with teams in hospices, hospitals, and in patients' own homes to deliver palliative care, optimizing quality of life even as death is approaching.

Kathryn has worked with many thousands of dying people and has found their ability to deal with illness and death both fascinating and inspirational.

She believes that a better public awareness about what happens as we die would reduce fear and enable people to discuss their hopes and plans with the people that matter to them.

Her account of how people live while they're dying, in her book, With the End in Mind, was published to Universal acclaim and was shortlisted for the Wellcome Prize.

Kathryn's next book, Listen: How to Find the Words for Tender Conversations, starts with a potent story about her early career encounter with Mrs. de Souza.

I encourage you to listen to this discussion more than once.

Kathryn's listening, it's well class and the way she explains listening is compelling. I have five copies of Kathryn's book to share.

If you email podcast@Oscartrimboli.com with the subject "Tender" and your reflections of this conversation.

You could reflect on the story of Mrs. de Souza.

You might reflect on Dorothy and her listening, or how you think about dancing and listening, the difference between doing and being listening, the impact of listening via video versus face-to-face. This is such a rich and nuanced experience.

Kathryn completely changed the way I think about listening.


Most of us spend over half our working hours listening, yet almost no one has ever been taught how to do it well. The result is a cycle of frustration and missed connections, where genuine understanding feels just out of reach. Deep Listening-Impact beyond words-Oscar Trimboli moves past the simple mechanics of hearing to explore the profound space where real impact is made. Hosted by Oscar Trimboli, this series tackles the silent gaps in our conversations-the assumptions, distractions, and unspoken cues that derail collaboration and leadership. Each episode breaks down the tangible skills needed to listen beyond words, focusing on the physical, mental, and emotional layers that most overlook. You’ll hear practical techniques drawn from research and real-world scenarios, designed for leaders, managers, and anyone who needs to navigate complex workplace relationships. This isn’t about passive hearing; it’s about an active, disciplined practice that transforms meetings, feedback, and negotiations. By tuning into this podcast, you gain a framework to quiet the internal and external noise, creating the clarity that leads to better decisions and deeper human connection. Trimboli guides you through shifting from simply waiting to speak to truly understanding, turning a fundamental skill into your most powerful professional tool.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 50

Deep Listening - Impact beyond words - Oscar Trimboli
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