Why it's worth listening to people you are in conflict with

Why it's worth listening to people you are in conflict with

Author: Oscar Trimboli April 22, 2022 Duration: 41:26

I am delighted to introduce Christopher Mills, a psychotherapist, a family consultant, a supervisor, and a trainer. Christopher began his work alongside family lawyers, helping them to develop skills to help them collaborate across divorce teams.

In 2009, he made "Deadlock to dialogue". It was a film, an unrehearsed role-play combining the skills of mediation and psychotherapy when working with separating couples. His interest in mediation around childcare disputes led him to write "The complete guide to divorced parenting", a strong advocate of the need for lawyers to receive more support in their work with family trauma.

He became the UK's first professional to offer specific regular supervision for family lawyers and QCs.

About six months ago, I was lucky enough to work with this community in Australia as well. And they bear a huge burden when they act on behalf of their clients in these cases. Deep listening podcast listeners have asked if I could do an episode on how to listen in conflict through the lens of relationships.


Most of us spend over half our working hours listening, yet almost no one has ever been taught how to do it well. The result is a cycle of frustration and missed connections, where genuine understanding feels just out of reach. Deep Listening-Impact beyond words-Oscar Trimboli moves past the simple mechanics of hearing to explore the profound space where real impact is made. Hosted by Oscar Trimboli, this series tackles the silent gaps in our conversations-the assumptions, distractions, and unspoken cues that derail collaboration and leadership. Each episode breaks down the tangible skills needed to listen beyond words, focusing on the physical, mental, and emotional layers that most overlook. You’ll hear practical techniques drawn from research and real-world scenarios, designed for leaders, managers, and anyone who needs to navigate complex workplace relationships. This isn’t about passive hearing; it’s about an active, disciplined practice that transforms meetings, feedback, and negotiations. By tuning into this podcast, you gain a framework to quiet the internal and external noise, creating the clarity that leads to better decisions and deeper human connection. Trimboli guides you through shifting from simply waiting to speak to truly understanding, turning a fundamental skill into your most powerful professional tool.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 50

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