How to know if you should leave a relationship (without feeling you are giving up)

How to know if you should leave a relationship (without feeling you are giving up)

Author: Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa - Neuroscientist and Mindset Coach August 17, 2026 Duration: 43:30

Bonjour and welcome to the ep of today. 
I am going to give you a (long) pep talk about how to know if you should walk away from a relationship (without feeling as if you are giving up). 

I cover an array of key points to consider, including how problems are resolved in relationships, how to know if you are being manipulated or if the relationship has run its course, and how to not be so riddled with guilt. 

Brain fact: Insulin on the brain. 

Brain fact studies to read into further:

Benedict, C., Hallschmid, M., Hatke, A., Schultes, B., Fehm, H. L., Born, J., & Kern, W. (2004). Intranasal insulin improves memory in humans. Psychoneuroendocrinology, 29(10), 1326–1334. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.psyneuen.2004.04.003

Benedict, C., Hallschmid, M., Schmitz, K., et al. (2007). Intranasal Insulin Improves Memory in Humans: Superiority of Insulin Aspart. Neuropsychopharmacology, 32(1), 239–243. https://doi.org/10.1038/sj.npp.1301193

 

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Hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa, Do You F*cking Mind? delivers practical, science-backed mindset tools for anyone looking to cut through internal clutter and build a more resilient, self-directed life. This isn't abstract theory; it's applied neuroscience and psychology for your real-world problems. Each Monday, Alexis releases an in-depth episode exploring a single theme, dissecting topics like the mechanics of habit formation, navigating complex friendships, processing heartbreak, or cultivating a genuinely carefree approach to daily pressures. The focus is on actionable strategies, explaining not just what to do but how the brain works to make those changes stick. Then, every Friday, the format shifts to "Head Noise," a dedicated Q&A session where Alexis directly tackles listener-submitted questions, offering personalized insights and clarifications. The tone is direct, unapologetically candid, and free of fluff, mirroring the podcast's title. It’s a blend of rigorous science and street-smart wisdom, all aimed at empowering you to audit your own thoughts and behaviors. For those ready to move past passive listening and into active self-improvement, this podcast serves as a weekly mental toolkit. Listeners are encouraged to engage by sending their own questions for the Friday episodes.
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