Terri Cole on High Functioning Codependency, Burnout & Boundaries

Terri Cole on High Functioning Codependency, Burnout & Boundaries

Author: Lori Harder | YAP Media April 29, 2026 Duration: 1:02:20
Are you the person everyone relies on, but no one really checks in on? In this episode, psychotherapist Terri Cole is back to break down the often-overlooked pattern of overgiving and over-functioning that can lead to burnout, resentment, and disconnection in your relationships. She shares how this shows up especially for high-achieving women who “have it all together” and why it’s so hard to recognize in yourself. We talk about how to spot the signs, the difference between caring and controlling, and the small but powerful shifts you can start making today. Get ready to stop fixing everyone else and start prioritizing yourself.  Check out our Sponsors: Granola - Granola is an AI-powered notepad built for the way real people actually meet. Get three months free at http://granola.ai/earn. Shopify - Try the ecommerce platform I trust for Glōci, Sign up for your $1/month trial period at http://Shopify.com/happy Indeed - Spend less time searching, and more time actually interviewing candidates who check all your boxes. Indeed is giving Earn Your Happy listeners a $75 SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to help get your job the premium status it deserves. Just go to http://Indeed.com/podcast right now and support our show by saying you heard about Indeed on Earn Your Happy. Rella - Rella is a project management platform built specifically for social media managers and teams. Go to http://getrella.com and use code EARN for 10% off your first three months or annual plan. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 What does high-functioning codependency (HFC) look like? 06:00 Signs you might be over-functioning in your relationships. 11:30 How auto-advice giving can create resentment. 17:30 What’s the difference between compromise and self-abandonment in partnerships? 25:00 How to stop trying to control others and protect your peace. 31:45 The red flags of taking on too much emotional responsibility. 39:00 How to deal with guilt when you feel like you “should” do more. 45:00 How changing your behavior improves your relationships. 49:00 The FREE toolkit to help you start setting boundaries today! RESOURCES Learn more about Terri’s Free HFC Toolkit HERE Get your copy of Terri’s “Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency” HERE Apply for the Elite Entrepreneur Mastermind HERE! Get on the waitlist for Mentor Collective Mastermind HERE! Try glōci for 40% off your first order with code HAPPY at checkout - head to getgloci.com FOLLOW Follow me: @loriharder Follow glōci: @getgloci Follow Terri: @terricole

Hosted by entrepreneur and author Lori Harder, Earn Your Happy is a raw and relatable look at what it actually takes to build a meaningful life and business. This podcast lives in the messy middle ground between a bold vision and its realization, exploring the risks, the failures, and all those moments of doubt that nobody talks about on a polished highlight reel. Lori’s conversations are grounded in real experience-her own journey as a founder and host-and they cut through the noise of typical business advice. You’ll hear honest stories about the rollercoaster of chasing big goals, where laughter and vulnerability are just as important as strategy. It’s this authentic, no-BS approach that has resonated with so many, earning the show recognition as a top entrepreneurship podcast. Each episode feels like a candid talk with a friend who’s been there, offering not just inspiration but practical perspectives for navigating your own path. Tune in for a dose of reality that’s as motivating as it is genuine, proving that building something you love is never a straight line.
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