Day 13 with 75 Hard: Learn to give a F-Word

Day 13 with 75 Hard: Learn to give a F-Word

Author: Kulbors Productions September 14, 2023 Duration: 9:26

Welcome to the thirteenth episode of the 75 Hard Challenge: A Dad's Transformation Story. Today we're going through the list quickly because today is the first episode of Julius Book Club! I just got to the end of my first book, and it's The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson. It was a very good book and I've written out the ten points I took away:


  1. Choose Your F*cks Wisely: Instead of caring about everything, focus your attention and energy on what truly matters to you. Not everything deserves your emotional investment.

  2. Embrace Life's Inherent Challenges: Life is inherently difficult, and happiness comes not from avoiding problems but from solving them and growing as a person through the process.

  3. Accept Your Limitations: Acknowledge your flaws and limitations rather than striving for unattainable perfection. Self-awareness is key to personal growth.

  4. The Importance of Values: Define your core values and align your life with them. Living in accordance with your values brings a sense of purpose and fulfillment.

  5. Taking Responsibility: Take ownership of your life and the outcomes of your decisions. Blaming external factors for your problems only disempowers you.

  6. The Feedback Loop from Hell: Avoid the negative feedback loop where you feel bad about feeling bad. Emotions are natural, and it's okay to experience them without judgment.

  7. The Importance of Action: Action is the antidote to most problems. Instead of overthinking, take decisive steps towards your goals.

  8. The Subtlety of Not Giving a F*ck: The title doesn't suggest apathy; it encourages you to allocate your limited emotional energy to things that truly matter and let go of trivial concerns.

  9. Happiness is Not the Goal: Pursue a meaningful life, not just happiness. True contentment often comes from facing and overcoming life's challenges.

  10. Death and Legacy: Reflect on your mortality to gain perspective on what truly matters. What legacy do you want to leave behind, and how can you start working towards it now?

Feel free to leave me a review or comment if you want me to keep doing this!


There’s a raw, unfiltered honesty to Fatherly Grit: Thriving Through 75 Hard that pulls you right into the daily grind. This isn’t just a chronicle of a fitness challenge; it’s a candid audio journal about what it really means to commit to something difficult while balancing everything else. In the first season, Julius navigated the 75 Hard Challenge with all its stumbles and hard-won victories, offering a genuine look at the process. Now, he’s joined by Marcel, and the dynamic shifts. Together, they’re tackling the program as a duo, using the structure of the challenge as a springboard for much broader conversations. Each episode becomes a space where they work through the demands of life, work, family, and relationships in real time, all while holding each other accountable to their physical and mental goals. Produced by Kulbors Productions, this podcast captures the messy, rewarding journey of self-improvement without polish or pretense. You’ll hear the fatigue, the frustration, and the small breakthroughs that happen when two people decide to push their limits. It’s about finding strength in partnership and exploring how discipline in one area can ripple out and transform all the others. Tune in for a dose of relatable grit and the conversations that happen when the workout is done but the real work continues.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 55

Fatherly Grit: Thriving Through 75 Hard
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