Letters for the Fire - An Invitation

Letters for the Fire - An Invitation

Author: Hecate July 7, 2021 Duration: 8:27
Letters for the Fire is an invitation for survivors to write a letter to their rapist or abuser and send it to me. It is one of the deepest honors of my life to hold this space. I want to find more ways to help facilitate healing, to help survivors find their strength, and to help them feel connected, seen, and held. Letters for the fire feels like a part of that and if it feels right for you I hope you’ll entrust me with your letter. Include instructions in the subject of your email - "Read...

Hosted by Hecate, Finding OK-Healing After Sexual Assault and Abuse is a space built on the understanding that sharing stories is an act of collective strength. This podcast moves through the complex, non-linear terrain of recovery with a focus that is both intersectional and deeply personal. Conversations here are grounded in real experiences, exploring what recovery, self-care, and empowerment can look like when forged from a place of trauma. You'll hear from survivors and experts alike, discussing practical strategies for navigating daily life, the nuances of mental and physical wellness, and the cultural contexts that shape our healing journeys. It’s not about reaching a fictional finish line, but rather about mapping a path toward a different kind of okay. Each episode acknowledges the weight of the experience while making room for hope and resilience, reinforcing that no one has to walk this road in isolation. Tune in for a candid, compassionate resource that meets you where you are.
Author: Language: en-us Episodes: 91

Finding OK - Healing After Sexual Assault and Abuse
Podcast Episodes
"Toxic" [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 16:35
In this episode I talk about why it's so important to find a way to release tension after prolonged periods of stress, and then I discuss our growing use of the word"toxic" to describe people and relationships and how it…
Crossroads Self-Care [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 13:40
This is a support and self-care episode for the 2020 Election. For survivors this is a time of extreme anxiety, triggers, and symptom flare-ups. It is ok to not be ok! That said, lets talk self-care. At the end I share o…
Shadow Work - a Samhain Episode [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 2:03:30
As the days grow shorter and the shadows lengthen many of us turn inward and sometimes struggle with some of the things we find in our own inner worlds. Eliot joins me in this special Samhain/Halloween episode to discuss…
Stop Sh*tting On Yourself You Beautiful B*tch [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 13:16
This episode takes a look at the negativity we can direct at ourselves, the false beliefs about ourselves that our abusers can leave behind, and how important it is to take notice and root those beliefs out. Y'all better…
Jury Duty [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:32:15
My sister Chie and I discuss most survivor's worst case senario heading into jury duty: being interviewed for a sexual assault case. We share our own experiences with this process and share advice for preparing for and h…
The Ugliest Word with Annie Margis [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 57:40
Annie Margis talks about her new book, The Ugliest Word. Annie is a survivor of childhood incest and her work is helping to break the silence and challenge the taboo. Annie and I talk about her passions and pursuits, how…
Returning to Your Place of Trauma [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 22:19
How can you tell if returning to your place of trauma will be beneficial? I discuss my own experiences with returning to my place, and share a list of actions you can take to make your return a healing and helpful one. T…
Abortion in a Covertly Abusive Relationship - Survivor Story [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 49:47
DeSha speaks very openly about her experiences with abortion. Now the mother of a wonderful child DeSha opens up about the difficult decisions she made on her path to parenthood while in a covertly abusive relationship a…
Covert Abuse - Survivor Story [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:37:06
DeSha shares more of her personal story in this episode. She talks about her relationship with a covert abuser, shares red flags, and reflects on the past with compassion and wisdom from a place of healing and growth. TW…
EMDR & Somatic Symptoms of PTSD [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:00:57
DeSha shares how EMDR therapy has changed her life, what sessions are like, and offers advice for anyone interested in trying it for themselves. We also talk about some seldom discussed somatic symptoms of PTSD and traum…