186: Trusting Your Intuition and Living as Your Authentic Self with Dr. Carolyn Kurle

186: Trusting Your Intuition and Living as Your Authentic Self with Dr. Carolyn Kurle

Author: Simona Costantini June 20, 2023 Duration: 47:08

This week I deep dive with my guest Dr. Carolyn Kurle on how we can tune out the noise of other people’s expectations and listen to our inner truth.

Dr. Carolyn Kurle holds degrees in Zoology, German Literature, Wildlife Science, and Ecology, Evolution, and Behavior. She is a tenured biology professor at the University of California, San Diego (UCSD).

Dr. Kurle teaches hundreds of UCSD students every year. Working with these remarkable people helped inspire her to write The Guidance Groove as numerous truly outstanding, brilliant, hard-working, and beautiful UCSD students struggle with feelings of inadequacy, obligation, scarcity, and unworthiness and exhibit many of the behaviors that stem from adherence to the Unproductive Grooves detailed in her book. 

We never quiet our minds completely, but we can learn to recognize when our false thoughts steer our choices, then choose instead to act from a place of authenticity. Then, we can navigate life from a place of authentic wholeness, and ease, contentment, and joy will naturally arise.

 

We dive into:

  • [0:50] What does happiness mean to Carolyn

  • [3:42] How do we figure out what our truth is versus the noise and influence of other people

  • [11:25] How can you overcome the fear motivators in your life

  • [17:53] Learning to tune in to our truth through our biology

  • [24:02] Signs we can look for that we’re trusting our inner voice

  • [30:39] Tangible ways of getting over the fear and judgment that comes from living as your true self

  • [41:18] A peak into Carolyn’s book and 1 key takeaway from it

  • [46:24] How can someone create a little more happiness each day starting today


 

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We all ask those big questions about contentment and purpose at some point. Happiness Happens doesn’t treat those queries as abstract philosophy, but as a practical, weekly conversation hosted by Simona Costantini. Rather than offering a rigid formula, this podcast explores the many facets of a meaningful life through dialogues with thoughtful guests from various fields. You’ll hear from psychologists, artists, thinkers, and everyday people who have found unique pathways to fulfillment. The discussions are grounded in real experience, focusing on actionable insights that go beyond simple positive thinking. Each episode feels like a deep dive into a different corner of the human experience, whether it’s examining the role of community, the pursuit of creative passion, or the quiet practice of self-acceptance. Simona guides these conversations with a genuine curiosity, making complex ideas about well-being feel accessible and personal. The result is a resource that feels both expansive and intimately useful. Tuning into this podcast is less about searching for a single secret and more about gathering a toolkit-a collection of perspectives and practices that help you define what happiness actually means in your own life. It’s for anyone who believes that a more contented life is built from a series of conscious choices and deeper understandings, one honest conversation at a time.
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