Episode 21 - Autumn Hartpence: "Stop Forcing the Fit: When High-Quality Work Doesn't Get Results"
You've poured everything into a program that people won't use. You've created support systems that sit empty. You know you did high-quality work—but the outcome you believed would happen just isn't materializing.
Sound familiar?
This episode tackles the hardest leadership question: When do you push through, and when do you completely redesign? Autumn Hartpence, an Air Force Veteran completing her PhD, shares her 40-participant case study that reveals why capable people reject support systems designed for them—and what that taught us about trusting the process while questioning our assumptions.
This is about the final element of the Hardcore and At Ease Framework: Trust the Process. Not blind persistence, but the wisdom to let go of the "how" you've invested in so you can better serve the "why" that matters. You'll discover why sometimes the mission isn't failing—it's expanding.
CHAPTERS:
(00:01:00) Opening: Building Something Amazing That People Won't Use
(00:05:00) Meet Autumn Hartpence: PhD Candidate and Research on Women Veterans
(00:08:00) The Invisible Ranks: Social Identity Theory
(00:13:00) When Your Tools Are Rusty: The Transition Challenge
(00:17:00) Sense of Belonging Theory: Finding New Identity
(00:23:00) The Height Requirement Problem: Performance Standards Matter
(00:27:00) The Limits of Peer Support: When "Just Being There" Is Enough
(00:33:00) The Spectrum of Need: Not Everyone Needs the Same Solution
(00:37:00) The Mission Wasn't Failing—It Was Expanding
(00:40:00) Non-Response Is a Response: The Kindergarten Mouse Story
(00:42:00) Get the Gear: Research & Documentation Systems
IN THIS EPISODE YOU'LL DISCOVER:
- ✓ Why one proven solution doesn't work for everyone (and how to recognize when you're forcing the wrong fit)
- ✓ The spectrum of need framework that helps you stop treating all your people the same
- ✓ How to listen to what people are telling you through their absence
- ✓ The difference between trusting the process and stubbornly defending your solution
FEATURED GUEST:
Autumn Hartpence - Air Force Veteran & PhD Candidate
Autumn served 14 years active duty as a weapons loader before transitioning to civilian life. She conducted a 40-participant case study on women veterans and peer support, revealing insights about identity, belonging, and what support actually looks like at different life stages. She's currently completing her PhD while raising her three-year-old and supporting Grand Rapids Veterans via Woman Veteran Strong and the Walking With Warriors project.
NEXT WEEK: Episode 22 - Solo Episode
We're continuing our Trust the Process series with advanced strategies for maintaining faith in positive outcomes when the path forward isn't clear.
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