Ingrid Clayton – Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves

Ingrid Clayton – Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves

Author: How To Academy December 10, 2025 Duration: 1:01:58
Do you avoid conflict? Do you tend to take the blame? Do you take care of others at the expense of yourself? Do you live in a state of hypervigilance? Fawning can appear in a plethora of different ways, it can be visible or invisible; it can manifest in our relationships to sex or money, or in the tendency to 'people-please'. But one thing remains constant: it is about finding safety in an unsafe world, often at our own expense. Fawning expert and clinical psychologist Dr Ingrid Clayton shines a light on this under-represented but crucial piece of the trauma puzzle, bringing clarity and support. Drawing on twenty years of clinical psychology work, as well as a lifetime of insight as a recovering fawner herself, she shares tools to find meaningful, reciprocal connections – and finally be ourselves.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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