How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell, Together with Dean Spade

How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell, Together with Dean Spade

Author: How to Survive the End of the World June 6, 2025 Duration: 1:08:12

The sisters are thrilled to welcome Dean Spade to the show! He has been working to build queer and trans liberation based in racial and economic justice for the past two decades. He is a professor at the Seattle University School of Law and author of the new book, Love in a Fucked Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell, Together.

Dean and Autumn and adrienne discuss holding anxiety in your body, literally touching and flirting with trees, the most exciting thing on your horizon, giving eachother what we need, self-authorizing, the dangers of isolation, why we become relationship monsters, love as a psychedelic journey, how our childhoods play into our patterns, Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix, everyone needing good, quality attention, the exclusivity spell, normalizing jealousy, locating our personal sore spots and whether we're gonna be able to move together enough to stop these ecocidal maniacs bent on killing us all!

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Sisters Autumn Brown and adrienne maree brown host How to Survive the End of the World, a podcast rooted in their shared lives as writers, activists, and facilitators shaped by multiracial diasporic lineages. This isn't a theoretical discussion about distant catastrophes; it's a direct, grounded conversation about the endings we are all already living through-the collapse of systems, the death of old ways, and the personal transformations that feel like worlds dissolving. Each episode delves into the tangible, often messy practices a community needs to navigate these ruptures. You'll hear them explore how we grieve, how we organize, how we imagine futures, and how we find wholeness even as things fall apart. The dialogue is intimate and urgent, moving from the kitchen table to the front lines of social change, always asking what it means to survive with integrity and connection. This podcast operates from the belief that learning to face endings together is the first, most necessary step toward building something new. For more from Autumn and adrienne, find them at endoftheworldshow.org.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

How to Survive the End of the World
Podcast Episodes
Witch School Chapter 12: Chani Nicholas [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:03:40
Join us for a conversation with Chani Nicholas, a best-selling author and astrologer. She and adrienne get into how astrology lives in all of us, building a world together, learning as we go, wisdom gathering, the way th…
Witch School Chapter 16, Suhaly Bautista-Carolina [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 50:01
Join adrienne as she dives deep with Suhaly Bautista-Carolina. They discuss rooted energy, looking back, bruja-ness, plant magic, the Tao Te Ching, the snake skin of the way, childhood memories as stepping stones to wher…
Practices for Care and Endurance [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:26:11
A special bonus episode organized by Hala Alyan with adrienne maree brown, Spenta Kandawalla, Adaku Utah, Sepideh Moafi, Noor Tagouri and Layla Feghali. With gratitude to CTZNWELL. TRANSCRIPT // LEARN MORE FROM OUR HOSTS…
Witch School Chapter 15, Juju Bae [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 50:40
adrienne talks to JuJu Bae about Beyonce, the Orisha Tradition, Bad Bitch Witchness, A Little Juju Podcast, The Demons, Grandmas Building Alters, Intergenerational Herbalists, Hoodoo, Loving Being On Earth, Intermixing I…
Witch School Chapter 14, Adela Nieves Martinez [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 51:36
Join adrienne for a conversation with healer, Adela Nieves Martinez. Adela is a storykeeper, mama and Promotora de Salud/Traditional Community Health Practitioner. Her work focuses on supporting people in their journeys…
On Endurance, with Hala Alyan [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:11:53
This episode is taken from adrienne’s Instagram live with the writer/poet Hala Alyan. Her recent piece in the NYT is Why Must Palestinians Audition for Your Empathy? In this conversation she joins adrienne to discuss end…
Witch School Chapter 13: Claire Davey [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 59:25
We found Claire Davey on the summer solstice and bring her to you this Samhain week. Claire shares sacred Celtic Cosmology teachings about moving into the sacred delicious darkness of this phase of our (northern hemisphe…
Ceasefire [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 55:59
Listen to two conversations with adrienne around the crisis in Palestine and Israel, first with Lara Kiswani from the Arab Resource and Organizing Center, then from Morgan Bassichis of Jewish Voice for Peace.
Witch School Chapter 11: Michael Morris [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:07:51
Join us for a conversation with Michael Morris on fall season magic, the feminist dimension of being a witch, childish potions, transgender liberation movements, and the long cycle of stories of change. --- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠S…
Witch School Chapter 10: Aesha Rasheed [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:04:05
Aesha Rasheed on emerging shamanism, apprenticeship, loss and ritual, wild magic making, unnamed healers, being a bodyworker!, S.O.N.G., being the somatic experience of the earth, blood spells, (and being fangirled by am…