How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell, Together with Dean Spade

How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell, Together with Dean Spade

Author: How to Survive the End of the World June 6, 2025 Duration: 1:08:12

The sisters are thrilled to welcome Dean Spade to the show! He has been working to build queer and trans liberation based in racial and economic justice for the past two decades. He is a professor at the Seattle University School of Law and author of the new book, Love in a Fucked Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell, Together.

Dean and Autumn and adrienne discuss holding anxiety in your body, literally touching and flirting with trees, the most exciting thing on your horizon, giving eachother what we need, self-authorizing, the dangers of isolation, why we become relationship monsters, love as a psychedelic journey, how our childhoods play into our patterns, Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix, everyone needing good, quality attention, the exclusivity spell, normalizing jealousy, locating our personal sore spots and whether we're gonna be able to move together enough to stop these ecocidal maniacs bent on killing us all!

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Sisters Autumn Brown and adrienne maree brown host How to Survive the End of the World, a podcast rooted in their shared lives as writers, activists, and facilitators shaped by multiracial diasporic lineages. This isn't a theoretical discussion about distant catastrophes; it's a direct, grounded conversation about the endings we are all already living through-the collapse of systems, the death of old ways, and the personal transformations that feel like worlds dissolving. Each episode delves into the tangible, often messy practices a community needs to navigate these ruptures. You'll hear them explore how we grieve, how we organize, how we imagine futures, and how we find wholeness even as things fall apart. The dialogue is intimate and urgent, moving from the kitchen table to the front lines of social change, always asking what it means to survive with integrity and connection. This podcast operates from the belief that learning to face endings together is the first, most necessary step toward building something new. For more from Autumn and adrienne, find them at endoftheworldshow.org.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 50

How to Survive the End of the World
Podcast Episodes
Messiness is Where the Creativity Exists with Céline Semaan [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:03:54
adrienne is thrilled to connect with the co-founder of Slow Factory and author of A Woman is a School, Céline Semaan. Celine shares her journey as a Lebanese-American and the founder of Slow Factory, emphasizing the need…
The Five Stages of Defiance with Dr. Sunita Sah [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:16:24
The sisters are thrilled to learn from Dr. Sunita Sah and discuss her brilliant book Defy: The Power of No in a World that Demands Yes. The conversation explores the complex relationship between compliance and defiance a…
The Sister Peace [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 56:06
The sisters continue their meditations on solidarity as they delve into navigating personal and professional growth, anxiety and parenting dynamics, understanding mutual activation, the role of art and expression in diff…
The Sister Feud [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:06:58
Warning, this episode includes mention of suicide. A previous version of this episode didn't include this trigger warning. Apologies.---The sisters get into it as they continue to explore the theme of solidarity. They di…
Original Sins with Dr. Eve L. Ewing [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:13:59
Autumn and adrienne are thrilled to welcomeDr. Eve L. Ewing to get deep into her new book, Original Sins: The (Mis)education of Black and Native Children and the Construction of American Racism.Dr. Ewing is also the auth…
Is This the Rapture? with Roan Boucher [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:09:51
adrienne and Autumn welcome Roan Boucher to explore the complex themes of Christian nationalism and its implications for contemporary social justice movements. Roan schools us on the historical context of the movement, t…
From Parable to Practice: Building Your Go Bag [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 24:03
Join adrienne and Autumn as they discuss the fundamentals of creating a go bag on HTS producer, Zak Rosen's podcast, The Best Advice Show. Inspired by wisdom from Octavia Butler's Parable of the Sower and a listener's in…
The Solidarity of Unconditional Presence [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 18:00
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