How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell, Together with Dean Spade

How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell, Together with Dean Spade

Author: How to Survive the End of the World June 6, 2025 Duration: 1:08:12

The sisters are thrilled to welcome Dean Spade to the show! He has been working to build queer and trans liberation based in racial and economic justice for the past two decades. He is a professor at the Seattle University School of Law and author of the new book, Love in a Fucked Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell, Together.

Dean and Autumn and adrienne discuss holding anxiety in your body, literally touching and flirting with trees, the most exciting thing on your horizon, giving eachother what we need, self-authorizing, the dangers of isolation, why we become relationship monsters, love as a psychedelic journey, how our childhoods play into our patterns, Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix, everyone needing good, quality attention, the exclusivity spell, normalizing jealousy, locating our personal sore spots and whether we're gonna be able to move together enough to stop these ecocidal maniacs bent on killing us all!

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Sisters Autumn Brown and adrienne maree brown host How to Survive the End of the World, a podcast rooted in their shared lives as writers, activists, and facilitators shaped by multiracial diasporic lineages. This isn't a theoretical discussion about distant catastrophes; it's a direct, grounded conversation about the endings we are all already living through-the collapse of systems, the death of old ways, and the personal transformations that feel like worlds dissolving. Each episode delves into the tangible, often messy practices a community needs to navigate these ruptures. You'll hear them explore how we grieve, how we organize, how we imagine futures, and how we find wholeness even as things fall apart. The dialogue is intimate and urgent, moving from the kitchen table to the front lines of social change, always asking what it means to survive with integrity and connection. This podcast operates from the belief that learning to face endings together is the first, most necessary step toward building something new. For more from Autumn and adrienne, find them at endoftheworldshow.org.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

How to Survive the End of the World
Podcast Episodes
Freedom Practice in an Unfree World [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:11:11
Today we're thrilled to feature an interview featuring Autumn from Next Economy Now with Ryan Honeyman. In this episode, she shares her journey of moving from cooperative leadership at AORTA into a new phase of life focu…
The Long Dark with Francis Weller [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:17:51
The sisters are thrilled to welcome soul activist, Francis Weller to the show. They discuss how engaging with grief and shame is essential, the necessary process of the long dark, and how descent leads to self-discovery.…
A Mother's Letter [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 36:10
Hi Beloveds. We’re back with an episode to share from another show we love. Radio Workshop trains youth across Africa to make radio and podcasts. They provide the tools and teach the skills. Youth bring their creativity,…
Love in a F*cked Up World with Mariame Kaba [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:13:02
The sisters are thrilled to share an episode of one of their favorite new pods, Love in a F*cked Up World hosted by past HTS guest, Dean Spade.On this episode, Mariame Kaba joins Dean to talk about the dangers of putting…
The Revolution Will Be Incremental with Rebecca Solnit [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:07:03
The sisters are ecstatic to build with writer, activist and historian Rebecca Solnit. Her latest book is No Straight Road Takes You There: Essays on Uneven Terrain.They talk about how solidarity is always across differen…
A Palestinian Love Story with Devin Atallah and Sarah Ihmoud [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:27:41
adrienne is joined at her home by Devin Atallah and Sarah Ihmoud to hear their love story. They discuss what love has to do with solidarity, falling in love, Palestinians in love, searching for love, eternal love, self l…