How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell, Together with Dean Spade

How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell, Together with Dean Spade

Author: How to Survive the End of the World June 6, 2025 Duration: 1:08:12

The sisters are thrilled to welcome Dean Spade to the show! He has been working to build queer and trans liberation based in racial and economic justice for the past two decades. He is a professor at the Seattle University School of Law and author of the new book, Love in a Fucked Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell, Together.

Dean and Autumn and adrienne discuss holding anxiety in your body, literally touching and flirting with trees, the most exciting thing on your horizon, giving eachother what we need, self-authorizing, the dangers of isolation, why we become relationship monsters, love as a psychedelic journey, how our childhoods play into our patterns, Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix, everyone needing good, quality attention, the exclusivity spell, normalizing jealousy, locating our personal sore spots and whether we're gonna be able to move together enough to stop these ecocidal maniacs bent on killing us all!

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Sisters Autumn Brown and adrienne maree brown host How to Survive the End of the World, a podcast rooted in their shared lives as writers, activists, and facilitators shaped by multiracial diasporic lineages. This isn't a theoretical discussion about distant catastrophes; it's a direct, grounded conversation about the endings we are all already living through-the collapse of systems, the death of old ways, and the personal transformations that feel like worlds dissolving. Each episode delves into the tangible, often messy practices a community needs to navigate these ruptures. You'll hear them explore how we grieve, how we organize, how we imagine futures, and how we find wholeness even as things fall apart. The dialogue is intimate and urgent, moving from the kitchen table to the front lines of social change, always asking what it means to survive with integrity and connection. This podcast operates from the belief that learning to face endings together is the first, most necessary step toward building something new. For more from Autumn and adrienne, find them at endoftheworldshow.org.
Author: Language: English Episodes: 50

How to Survive the End of the World
Podcast Episodes
Write The Next World With Us [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:06:02
adrienne and Autumn are joined by Kate McCabe (Founder and Executive Director of Bog & Thunder), Max Sussman (Culinary Director of Bog & Thunder) and Dwight Dunston (facilitator, hip-hop artist, educator, and activist) t…
Moving Toward the Horizon of Love Together with Sonya Renee Taylor [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:00:31
Originally recorded on IG live, adrienne and her friend, the author, activist and artist Sonya Renee Taylor process being a survivor in these times. Loving shouts to Tarana Burke for all the portal opening and Amanda Doy…
Building a Movement Full of Doors and Windows with Morgan Bassichis [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:07:44
The sisters are THRILLED to build with their dear friend, Morgan Bassichis. Morgan is a comedian, musician, Anti-Zionist activist and writer who has been called “a tall child or, well, a big bird” by The Nation and “fier…
Who We Are Becoming Matters with Norma Wong [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:07:54
The sisters are THRILLED to welcome poet, Zen master and Indigenous Hawaiian leader Roshi Norma Wong back to the show! Her new book is part story-poem-instruction manual. It's called Who We Are Becoming Matters and is no…
Live from The Great Northern (feat. Penguin Daddies) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 59:48
adrienne and Autumn convened in Minneapolis at the end of January for a live taping of the show at The Great Northern Winter Festival. Every year The Great Northern puts on a winter festival that celebrates our coldest s…
Autumn Brown Becomes the Vision [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 52:01
Autumn was recently in conversation with Dr. Chera Reid and Dr. Trinel Torian on their wonderful podcast, Becoming the Vision where they invite visionaries from the field of philanthropy and beyond who believe and practi…
I am a Funeral Pyre with Nnenna and Pierce Freelon [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 1:10:57
The sisters are ecstatic to welcome Nnenna and Pierce Freelon to the show.Nnenna is a GRAMMY nominated jazz singer, storyteller and grief sojourner. Her latest album is Beneath the Skin. Her new book is Beneath the Skin…
FRACTAL #6: Altars as/for Your Art [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 20:08
The sisters describe how and why they build altars for creation and detail recalibrated writing nooks, work laptops, writing in the tub and car, vision boards, doodles for the self and bringing their creative and familia…
FRACTAL #5: The Beauty and Precision of Project Management [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 26:30
The sisters nerd out on project (and self!) management, spreadsheets, procrastination, saving your work and ensuring you have adequate support for the art you're making.---⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TRANSCRIPT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠---⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠…