How To Set Limits With an Ex

How To Set Limits With an Ex

Author: Peach Fish Projects January 28, 2025 Duration: 42:05

Guillermo and his ex-wife divorced nearly a decade ago. They share custody of their son which, Guillermo says, lets her continue meddling in his life. He recently started dating someone and it's getting serious, but he's worried that his ex is going to destroy his new relationship. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Bill Eddy, author and co-founder of the High Conflict Institute. Bill explains how to set limits and impose consequences in truly difficult situations to preserve your peace of mind and foster happiness.

If you liked this episode check out: How To Do Divorce Right and How To Save a Friend from a Bad Relationship

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