If you’ve ever wondered why it feels easier to hate yourself than to have needs, this one’s for you. We’re talking toxic shame, the tragic logic of self-rejection, and the inner critic who just wants you to “do better” by disappearing. This is where compassion meets neuroscience - and maybe, finally, where you start treating yourself like someone worth surviving for.
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