Secrets to self-control in friendship and life (Alex, Age 10)

Secrets to self-control in friendship and life (Alex, Age 10)

Author: Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD, author, psychologist, focusing on children's feelings, children's friendships, parenting, mental health. June 28, 2025 Duration: 6:50

Ep. 107: Strategies for making wise choices

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*** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:

- Think of a time when you were able to do what was right even though you were tempted to do something else. How did you do that? What helped you have self-control?

- Why do you think it’s sometimes hard to have self-control?

- Dr. Friendtastic mentioned three strategies for self-control: 1) change the situation, 2) replace the behavior (do something else), and 3) use self-talk. Which do you think is the easiest strategy to use? Which have you found to be the most helpful?

- Think of an area in your life where you’d like to have more self-control. (Hint: It could be related to a bad habit you have or something you’ve done in the past that has caused problems in your relationships.) If you were going to use self-talk to give yourself a pep talk about doing the right thing in this area from now on, what would you say to yourself

*** You might also like these podcast episodes:

Ep. 53 - How to stay calm when someone is bragging (Lillian, Age 11)

https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/lillian-age-11-how-to-stay-calm-when

Ep. 52 - Friend's parents don't like him (Tyler, Age 12)

https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/tyler-age-12-friends-parents-dont

Ep. 70 - Knowing when and how to stop (Owen, Age 8)

https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep70-owen-age-8-stop-signals



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Author: Language: English Episodes: 100

Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Friendship Advice for Kids (K-8)
Podcast Episodes
Making friends in a new school (Nora, Age 8) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 5:46
Ep. 72 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Making Friends at a New SchoolNora wants to know what she can do to make friends when she's starting at a new school.Scroll down for discussion questions.FREE quiz: Is Your Child a Goo…
Is she a friend or not? (Tali, Age 11) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 5:15
Ep. 71 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Dealing with a Hot-and-Cold FriendTali is trying to figure out whether a friend who runs hot-and-cold–sometimes kind, sometimes unkind–is really her friend. Scroll down for discussion…
Knowing when and how to stop (Owen, Age 8) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 5:30
Ep. 70 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Sending and receiving Stop SignalsOwen asks about Stop Signals, which are all the verbal and nonverbal ways people tell someone to stop. Sending and receiving Stop Signals effectively…
Friends get together without her (Phoebe, Age 6) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 4:31
Ep. 69 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Is an imperfect friendship worth keeping?Phoebe feels excluded when her friends hang out without her.Scroll down for discussion questions.Would YOUR KID like to be featured on the podc…
Friend runs away from her (Maya, Age 6) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 4:59
Ep. 68 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Avoiding the demand-withdraw patternMaya wonders how to handle a friend who runs away and ignores her.Scroll down for discussion questions.Would YOUR KID like to be featured on the pod…
Choosing friends who are a good influence (Paul, Age 12) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 5:30
Ep. 67 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Peer pressure vs. peer influencePaul asks how to find the right friends to surround himself with.Scroll down for discussion questions.Would YOUR KID like to be featured on the podcast?…
Friends don’t invite her (Adeline, Age 8) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 4:42
Ep. 66 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: What’s behind a friend wanting to control you?Adeline wishes her friends would invite her to play during recess, but she doesn’t have to wait for an invitation.Scroll down for discussi…
Handling a controlling friend (Bridget, Age 14) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 5:06
Ep. 65 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: What’s behind a friend wanting to control you?Bridget wonders how to deal with a friend who is being controlling.Scroll down for discussion questions.Would YOUR KID like to be featured…
Make friends with different interests (Blake, Age 13) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 4:00
Ep. 64 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Building real connections to make friends.Blake wants to know how to make friends with kids who have different interests than he does.Scroll down for discussion questions.Would YOUR KI…
Friend wants all her attention (Rosie, Age 5 3/4) [not-audio_url] [/not-audio_url]

Duration: 5:51
Ep. 63 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Dealing with being excluded.Rosie wonders why her friend doesn’t want her to play with anyone else, and what she can do about it.Scroll down for discussion questions.Would YOUR KID lik…